Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I’ve tried several times lately to make post but once I dive into my emotions I let them get the best of me and I fall to pieces. I give up and just lose it. I miss having a wife. I miss trying to make her laugh. I miss leaving love notes. Oh, the smell of her her skin. What I’d give to for moment with it. I want her hand in mine. To see her smile as gently tighten mine around hers. I miss her so much. I do. I’m able to convince myself now, that I can move on without her. I really don’t think I can. I dream about her. Where we’ve been. Where we hadn’t. I dream of what was and what may have been. I dream of good and of the bad. The hardest part is going to bed and waking up without her. Knowing that I can’t make her happy like she made me is like having the world taken from me.
My wife moved out last weekend and I can barely get through one freaking week let alone day without her.
I’m trying to keep telling myself that she doesn’t want to be with me and that if she is not happy with me than I have to let her go physically and mentally.
All she keeps telling me is that she wants to be happy. Her birthday was Friday and i had the kids. So I decided to take the kids over with ice cream and brownies. Grabbed some candles and I had the kids sing to her. The. I found myself constantly checking her status on Facebook....she is ALWAYS on it...except for this weekend so that’s got me thinking.....well...yeah....
I, like you, keep thinking about where we have been and what we have done but also all the things we haven’t seen and done. We are both 38 with kids and this should be the happiest times of our lives.... I want to be angry, I want to expose all the things she has said and done but I keep going back to the thoughts of I need to be the bigger person. I need to be the father my kids look up to and to not revolt with hurtful words.
Why do we want so badly to be with people who don’t wont to be with us???
Stay strong my friend!!!
We will be happy once again.
I think there are some people who are wired to roll up their sleeves in a relationship, or are willing to learn to do this, and some people who aren't. If it makes you feel any better, I'm the former and I'm caught in this in-between space where I can't tell if my partner is really giving our relationship a reboot or has put his multi-year affair on the back burner. That's a different sort of pain I would not wish on anyone.
Im so sorry that you are experiencing same pain , its really hard to deal with when you were so honest and truly in love