Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
So my ex fiancee is in town this weekend with his new GF. I had seen a picture of them together before. She is skinny, blond, and tall. And she haunts me in my dreams. I feel so ugly, I just cant compete with that.
I`m overweight (though I`ve been working on it and in 3 months have lost 25lbs), my hair is a disaster because I have Hypothyroidism and so its thin and straw like (treatment is not doing anythiing), I`m short, and whats worse is my dentist botched a procedure and I am missing my eye tooth. I have insurance up here in Canada to get it fixed, but it will still cost me money and thanks to my ex, I dont have alot of cash right now. I feel like a hobo or some kind of troll that lives under a bridge somewhere. I cant seep because everytime I do I just see them together, and I see me and think who would ever love me?
I`m overweight (though I`ve been working on it and in 3 months have lost 25lbs), my hair is a disaster because I have Hypothyroidism and so its thin and straw like (treatment is not doing anythiing), I`m short, and whats worse is my dentist botched a procedure and I am missing my eye tooth. I have insurance up here in Canada to get it fixed, but it will still cost me money and thanks to my ex, I dont have alot of cash right now. I feel like a hobo or some kind of troll that lives under a bridge somewhere. I cant seep because everytime I do I just see them together, and I see me and think who would ever love me?
the thing is, no one can tell me any different. i dont like how i look. and until i learn to like me - whatever size, etc. - there is nothing anyone can say to me that will provide me with any comfort. i have to get to a place where i am comfortable in my own skin no matter what i look like. it was a huge arguing point in my marriage even - so i know i have some deep rooted issues that need to be worked on. my exhusband told me how pretty i was - the most beautiful woman in the world - all the men looking at us together were jealous of him, etc. but where does that leave me now with him gone? it still had to be grounded within me.
i know thats probably not what you wanted to hear. i am of little comfort in situations like this. i just wanted you to know that you arent alone. and it starts from within. i could compare myself to people for the rest of my life and im never going to win - someone is always going to be one up on me, one down on me. i just need to learn to love me. and im getting there. i hope you can too. xoxo
Thamotivator, I dont know what happend. he just said he didn't love me and hasnt for the last 2 years (since he has been clean). He said its not my fault. He just felt so differently after he had been clean and he tired to change how he felt but couldnt.