It's not sad...it's awesome! We separated in November 2009, and by the time I asked for the divorce in August 2010, it was a no brainer. I felt so much relief when i finally knew it was time to stop beating a dead horse and get on with my life.
Each month that goes by, I privately commemorate my divorce anniversary. It was seven months in July, and every day I know, for sure, that sadness about it is exactly what I DON'T feel.
27 years is a long time, but even you said you spent the last few years separated. That wasn't a marriage at the end. The relief, the stress being lifted from having a positive, definite direction is a wonderful, wonderful thing. I am so glad you're ready to move on! Best of luck!

Be glad. You are finally getting free of this situation. Don't feel bad about being happy for yoursef.

I can relate...when my marriage was dying years ago, we lived together for over a year in a bad situation, hardly talking and I think he might have had someone on the side, but when he finally left the relief was amazing...and though I still loved him and was hoping for a reconciliation, I started to go out and realized that I was in a better place than I thought. I had healed and gone through all the crying and crap for so long that I was more ready than I knew...of course meeting my new ex 2 months later and having a wonderful 11 year relationship helped me move on even more...but now he has left and I'm going through this all over again and it's far worse and will take much longer for me to move on...but good for you-I'm thrilled for you!

Can you send some of that good feeling my way???

I must be really into flogging that dead horse, because my relationship has been over for a year, but we still dated and saw each other monthly, talked every two to three days, but no commitment.

He has met someone new and has finally told me he no longer is willing to try. In a way it is good. It will force me to move on. If I am honest, I just miss the companionship and I am just envious that he has moved on first.

There is the emotional divorce and the legal divorce. Sounds like you already went through the emotional some time ago.

I am glad you are in a good place!

Thanks all. I am just starting to let friends and family know and I guess I felt bad telling them and feeling happy at the same time because they feel bad for me. But I'm glad I can tell them I feel good about it. And Karen, my therapist said that exact thing this morning that I am emotionally totally divorced and ready to move. Have to get the legal process started. This seems sudden to our family and friends because we didn't share the misery (ha)...but guess I don't have to worry about them at this point.

Cathleen, I can so identify with what you said here - this is my life to the T, after 29 years.
And I just received the final divorce decree last week almost a year to the day after I asked my ex to move out and the feeling of relief and freedom is even better!!!!
It is such a pleasure to come home to a peaceful haven after a day at work and not have to walk on eggshells!!!
One of these days I may even be dancing on the ceiling, it feels so good!!! I am with you on this!!!

I forgot to say though.....I am not feeling the guilt anymore!! Let that go last year!!
Why should we feel guilty after giving it our best shot for so long!! We are now free to live our own lives on our own terms!