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So I debated on if I should post this because it feels so personal but clearly everyone has shared so much I feel safe and okay to do this part of my life also.
Since I was 18 years old I have had OCD. Over the years my obsessions have changed into different things. It started with being very obsessed with organizing my clothes, this went away and turned into being obsessed with washing my hands after coming into my house from being outside. This later changed into having to shower 2-3 times everyday for set amounts of time. This later changed into being obsessed with career goals. As you can tell it comes and goes but I cant remember a time in recent history where some sort of obsession or fixation wasn't really apart of my life. I need structure routines and "perfection" in many areas of my life.
My question is can my OCD be why I am having a hard time dealing with my ex not in my life anymore. Can OCD transform into a obsession or fixation on a relationship ? I feel that it has been many months and the fact that I am still thinking about this person this much ....well it feels abnormal to me. it feels as if I don't handle breakups the same way as most people. I do feel I have a deeper more severe response that does remind me of the sort of anxiety I have felt over things like needing to do specific routines in the past. How do you move on totally when you have obsessive qualities in general. Has anyone dealt with or know of anyone who has had a similar experience. ?
Since I was 18 years old I have had OCD. Over the years my obsessions have changed into different things. It started with being very obsessed with organizing my clothes, this went away and turned into being obsessed with washing my hands after coming into my house from being outside. This later changed into having to shower 2-3 times everyday for set amounts of time. This later changed into being obsessed with career goals. As you can tell it comes and goes but I cant remember a time in recent history where some sort of obsession or fixation wasn't really apart of my life. I need structure routines and "perfection" in many areas of my life.
My question is can my OCD be why I am having a hard time dealing with my ex not in my life anymore. Can OCD transform into a obsession or fixation on a relationship ? I feel that it has been many months and the fact that I am still thinking about this person this much ....well it feels abnormal to me. it feels as if I don't handle breakups the same way as most people. I do feel I have a deeper more severe response that does remind me of the sort of anxiety I have felt over things like needing to do specific routines in the past. How do you move on totally when you have obsessive qualities in general. Has anyone dealt with or know of anyone who has had a similar experience. ?
Addicts never truly give up their addictions, they just trade them for new ones. (Again - this is an opinion only based on NO scientific fact)
I'm very obsessive. I focus. When it's a relationship, I hyper focus. So I can relate. I replay conversations constantly.
Everybody moves on at different rates, their is no timetable to forget somebody or how they made you feel.
It took a while to realize my marriage was really over and then some time to grieve it and get over it. It got better over time, until I started thinking about him less and less and the anger subsided.
I'm involved with somebody else again and I'm going thru the same again - I can't stop thinking about him.
Hope you find inner peace and stay strong.
To be blunt? You're handling this just like "everyone else". There's nothing medically or psychologically wrong with you. Nothing to blame this in except your CHOICE in focusing on this.
Once you accept that YOU have the power to change your mindset, you will. But not one second before. YOU have the power here, totally and completely. You don't think about "him" 24 hours, you have minutes when you don't. Those minutes get longer and longer.