Got bad Anxiety with it all. can anyone help please

There is no miracle spell and you cannot force someone to be in love with you or to stay with you. Your relationship was relatively short so it's time to focus on you moving on. If you tell yourself negative things like "I feel like I lost my 1 chance of happiness" then you will begin to actually believe that and not see or accept others that are out there.

Obsession for another person isn't good for so many reasons...

What to do... look at WHY you are attracted... what kinds of things does he represent that you might find yourself lacking. Once you discover that, start exploring how you can grow, gain those things for yourself. When you are done, you'll find someone who'll complete you even more because he'll match your completeness. Think about it this way.... needy attracts needy. Strong and confident attracts strong and confident. Which one do you want.

fix your problems with your daughter and maybe he will come back. good luck.

My stepdaughter's behavior and her mother's unwillingness to address it, tore our marriage apart. Are you doing all you can to fix the real problem? You lost something that could have been happy and permanent for something that was destructive and temporary (children eventually move out). Unless he was asking you to do something about it that was unreasonable, the ball was in your court. My ex even admitted she need to do something about her child's behavior, but never lifted a finger to try. She told me what I wanted to hear and ignored a deal breaking problem between us. Learn from this, and avoid this mistake in the future. My prayers are with you.......

You want him back so he can reject you more?

He made his position (or lack there of) crystal clear. You were there for his amusement/rag doll.

I didn't mean to sound harsh. My heart is with you. Heartbreak is heartbreak, and it doesn't matter who did or didn't do what. It still hurts. Be strong for your daughter and yourself, get through one day at a time.

i suffered with my daughter 4 years but she 19 now so i dident think she would destroy my life again. i haven't had anything to do with my daughter since she hurt me 2 much this time & i had lots of changes in my life & am not coping well with it all. i know ya right i need 2 move on & forget him he wasn't the 1 but i just cant get him out my head. i hate myself for getting like this i don't know what 2 do or how to stop these feelings

You lessen the feelings by getting on with your life. Do things that you enjoy doing. Hang with friends. Meet new people. Get involved in something that matters to you. When you fill your heart and mind up with new things, the old things have to move aside.

Thank you all 4 ya replies i am getting myself out & told myself if he was ya true love then he would still be hear & maybe it happened because he wasn't meant 4 me & its working fine. Thanks 4 ya advice & support xx