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Is therapy for everyone?

Rman
Rman
I believe that I am the type of person who would not benefit from therapy. I never liked talking to people about my personal feelings. I would probably be sitting there wondering what this therapist actually did behind closed doors and have a hard time trying to figure out what this person could actually do for me. I'm a little hard-headed like that...
Do you think that therapy is for everyone?
deleted_user
deleted_user
No.

Narcissist's usually don't benefit, as they knew it all, already.

People that are stuck, usually don't benefit, cuz they don't LISTEN.

People like me benefit cuz I don't go to get better, I go to get more tools.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Therapy was good / loved saying what I want and made mr feel good. Work payed for it.
Rman
Rman
I don't even know what a Narcissist is..
FrankTheGreat
FrankTheGreat
No.

But I agree with Jaken and think you should try it.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I don't know if it is for everyone---that is hard to say. I am very VERY introverted and find talking to people very difficult. What therapy did was give me an outlet and provided an impartial third party to help me see things objectively. It provides a safe place to just "wonder" out loud sometimes. My therapist has a group that I joined and that has been great - it is a mixed group and we all have our struggles. I did not like it at first but then I started to see these people as really kind and caring with their own struggles and it allowed me to feel more 'normal'.
Rman
Rman
Why can't DS be therapy?
deleted_user
deleted_user
actually narcissists and sociopaths DO benefit from therapy

they get more tools to understand and manipulate people,
and learn to better justify and excuse their actions

its their therapists that dont benefit

Therapy isnt for everyone, but if you find youre stuck over a long period of time, and you arent feeling good,
and youre convinced you dont want therapy

then figure out
or try out enough things
that you figure out what
you DO need

otherwise its just bein a crybaby
deleted_user
deleted_user
It is on some levels RBrother, however, notice no one here is licensed. It's a collective of common, and uncommon experiences that are shared between people to help them make better decisions.

IF you are going to go to therapy. DUMP. DUMP it all. Do not hold back and do not fear judgment.
Rman
Rman
And just for the record...I'm not crazy, suicidal or stupid enough to do anything that would keep me from raising my daughters. Sometimes I post random shit on here, just to see what happens. I believe that a raw thought or emotion, when put on this board, has a great deal of power. Anyway, thanks for the responses.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Damn Joydrop, every therapist I ever slept with disagrees.
deleted_user
deleted_user
You will not know until you tried.
and
You will not benefit unless you find someone who is really good or a good match for you.

TRY IT.
deleted_user
deleted_user
No, it's not for everyone.....

And DS should never be considered a substitute for therapy.

And Jaken is right......therapy can be a difficult process, but necessary.

Sometimes, I'm thankful it is only an hour (or whatever it is). Sometimes, I wonder where the time went.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Ooooh that means you must have gotten a visit from upper management Rman!
deleted_user
deleted_user
No.
Rman
Rman
It was only a verbal warning this time, TD...