Breakups & Divorce Support Group
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Me and my wife are having major marital issues. She isnt sure if she loves me anymore and is overloaded with stress at the moment. I am deployed so everything is even harder on us.
She has told me that she had plans before we got married and now in her state of mind she feels that being married to me might have ruined all of that. I have appologize for everything under the sun, for my faults, her faults and pretty much everything. And I am to blame for some of our issues for sure. She continues to tell me that she is so overwhelmed with the issues of our house, lawn, dogs and our marrige and just wants to leave it all and runn away. Ive told her that I would gladly make all her pain mine for her to be happy once again. Yet she continues to tell me there is nothing I could do and that nothing is fixable.
I feel that she has begun to push me away and is just waiting for me to tell her I want a divorce. This is far from it. I would gladly give my life for my wife to be happy. I love her with everything that I am. No question. Im just lost in what to say or do to comfort her while im so far away.
She has told me that she had plans before we got married and now in her state of mind she feels that being married to me might have ruined all of that. I have appologize for everything under the sun, for my faults, her faults and pretty much everything. And I am to blame for some of our issues for sure. She continues to tell me that she is so overwhelmed with the issues of our house, lawn, dogs and our marrige and just wants to leave it all and runn away. Ive told her that I would gladly make all her pain mine for her to be happy once again. Yet she continues to tell me there is nothing I could do and that nothing is fixable.
I feel that she has begun to push me away and is just waiting for me to tell her I want a divorce. This is far from it. I would gladly give my life for my wife to be happy. I love her with everything that I am. No question. Im just lost in what to say or do to comfort her while im so far away.
if she refuses, you will have to carry her around on your shoulders for the rest of you life like having a daughter instead of a wife.
she has to learn to grow into her new "wife shoes." every wife has to. you can gently help her with good input and ideas. just be gentle and you two can do this.
Im definitely going to reccomend some stuff to her but, Im pretty sure I know what she will say to it. Thats just the thing too, she is never open to understand her issues. She always want immediate results or answers. She is on the virge of leaving me and thats the last thing I want. Walking on egg shells with her is very tiresome but, because of the love I have for her Im not ready to just give up ya know. I want us to work and wish she too could see the lighter side of things. Not to the extent that I do but at least understand that things will get better. She just wont accept it. thanks for your advice and input. it means alot.
there are probably lots of women around that would be easier to work with than this one. if it doesn't work out with this one, maybe the next time you will pick a woman with better skills.
Yes it's hard to do everything by yourself, but what about you? What your doing is much harder than what she has on her plate.
She married you - she made a committment to you. It should mean something to her. She should be making you happy when you speak to her - not what she's doing to you!
I am sorry that you are hear. I hope that she can get her stress under control.
Thank you for your service! Sending lots of support.