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is it normal to dream about you and your ex

jeffstueber
jeffstueber
I don't have a lot of issues so I don't post on here much and I can't seem to generate enough chatter to contribute to the discussions much.

but my ex left in fall of 2009 and we were legally separated in Dec 2010. yet a few weeks ago, I had a dream (why, I dunno) that my ex and I, for some reason, had moved in together into a big house. then she moved her boyfriend in and I got angry and moved to the opposite side of the big house (yes, it was big enough that I could do it).

does this seem normal?
I don't obsess about it or fret about it. so why dream about it?
deleted_user
deleted_user
it happens, we've been broken up 2 years and occasionally ill have a dream with her in it. its always a random weird dream, nothing sexual or us getting back together or anything.

it happens rarely, but usually when im doing something or see something that reminds me and i think of her for a sec then usually that night ill have a dream with her in it. happens rarely, not like its every night.
oOoREBoOo
oOoREBoOo
I hope it's normal. I've had a few dreams of my ex this past week. Just random, and he was a part of what was going on.

I guess they get filed away in our subconscious, and as we peruse our files, every once in awhile they pop in.?
deleted_user
deleted_user
Yes, completely normal.

My therapist says its our unconsious continuing to work stuff out, even if we're not obessing or fretting.

She said these dreams usually go on for at least a year. While I didn't want to hear that they would last that long (and they pretty much did), I was glad to know it's normal!
deleted_user
deleted_user
I used to have a dream while I was still with my STBX that we were renewing our wedding vows. So weird, because it's not like it was EVER discussed, and not something I would ever think of doing (did it once, that should be enough). I just found it so weird! God I hope it's not a premonition! Um no, definitely not!

I hope I never dream about him - would rather have lovely dreams about some hunky guy instead!