Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Ok here is my story on June 1st my wife asked for a divorce, said you can have the kids, the house a cabin we have at the ocean and even a rental that is making money.
I told the kids that your mom wants a divorce because of you (know this ws the wrong thing to do but my emotions tooki over)Have since explained to them that I was upset.
On June 13th I faked a drinking binge (I'm an ex alcoholic), she said that made her jump into another man's arms. Lots of kissing and smooching (no sex she said).
I then broke into her E-mail and found all kinds of love letters I confronted her with this and she said she was still debating on who she would rather be with.
On July 1st we set the divorce in motion once agian I got the house, the cabin and the rental, we have since split the kids.
On June 3rd I stole her phone and found the boyfriends number called him numerous times, I have since lost my job, went by her work she works at a casino. And she has know got a restraining order on me.
I took the kids to a counseler and they said that mom likes her work and her boyfriend more then us they are 10 and 12.
Here is the worst thing about the whole thing I still love her and want her back, everybody says I'm crazy. I know I have done a lot of things wrong and she blames me and says we will never get back together because of the things I have done. Here is where I need the feedback.
I told the kids that your mom wants a divorce because of you (know this ws the wrong thing to do but my emotions tooki over)Have since explained to them that I was upset.
On June 13th I faked a drinking binge (I'm an ex alcoholic), she said that made her jump into another man's arms. Lots of kissing and smooching (no sex she said).
I then broke into her E-mail and found all kinds of love letters I confronted her with this and she said she was still debating on who she would rather be with.
On July 1st we set the divorce in motion once agian I got the house, the cabin and the rental, we have since split the kids.
On June 3rd I stole her phone and found the boyfriends number called him numerous times, I have since lost my job, went by her work she works at a casino. And she has know got a restraining order on me.
I took the kids to a counseler and they said that mom likes her work and her boyfriend more then us they are 10 and 12.
Here is the worst thing about the whole thing I still love her and want her back, everybody says I'm crazy. I know I have done a lot of things wrong and she blames me and says we will never get back together because of the things I have done. Here is where I need the feedback.
You have a lot to conquer if you want your wife back and I don't think it's going to be possible without some counseling. If that is truly what you want, you will need to demonstrate to her that you are making an effort. I wish you the best of luck.
And again, do you really think you are going to be able to let each other up off the carpet for past sins? Can be done, but I am guessing not likely.
Sounds more like you want her back as a possession, not a partner.
" I cannot stand my ex I feel betrayed and cheated on. if it wasn't for our kids I would have nothing to do with her and that would be that much better for me. "
???
You're pissed and angry and furious at her. Nothing good will come of ANY contact.
I used to check my emails/ messages Once a day, then have a Rule that I'd wait 24 hours before responding.
How many times are you checking? 10, 20, 50, 100??
I GET that it's hard, but you need to pull it together.
You are lucky than me, in that, my wife left and came back and wanted full custody of the kids, and everything else.
That is all I can recommend to you. I am not in good situation myself, everything I did seemed to be wrong to her eyes. so now, all I do is try to move on and see my kids as much as I can.
Time to man up and take accountability for your actions and focus on getting help so that you can be a healthy, happy father and role model to your children
She doesn't have responsiblity for those, no matter what she's done.
You need to work on finding better ways to cope.