My ex has been a complete jerk about signing a divorce agreement.  He knows that I desperately want to keep our daughter in a private school (because our public schools are a nightmare) and he is using this against me.  He is unemployed and makes nothing.  I cannot afford to pay him allimony, the mortgage, and keep my daughter in school.  He proposes a financial settlement that will allow me to do this -- but basically wipes out my entire savings account to pay him off.  I agree to it, because my lawyer tells me that financially, I could lose a lot more.  My lawyer writes up the settlement (keep in mind this is the second one that we've written up) and my ex texts me and says if I get it to him before vacation, he'll sign it.  Of course, I do and I hear nothing.  He texts me over vacation and says his attorney and him are not happy with it and that we'll hear back from them in a few days.  Three weeks goes by and I hear nothing.  The whole time he lays out all these conditions for the settlement -- I cannot have any guys in the house while he is gone, I have to be nice to him, I have to. . . I comply with all of them.  And still nothing.  In the meantime, anything I do, pisses him off and he threatens to withdraw the settlement.  Keep in mind, I am working full time and he is not lifting a finger to help out around the house.  I do all the cooking, cleaning, responsible things.  While he was on vacation, I cleaned out the basement -- which was entirely his mess.  It was a health hazard -- full of trash, dirty air filters, bags of cat poop.  And so, I get a little pissed off living with a sloth.  So when I get upset, he withdraws again from the settlement.  My whole family thinks he is playing with me, using the settlement as a weapon and that he has no intention of ever settling.  Are they right?  I am starting to think he has nowhere to go and likes living scott free mooching off of me.  I think he's using the fact that I desperately want to keep our daughter in a private school as a weapon against me.  I feel trapped.  My lawyer says I have no choice, but to wait it out and hope that he settles.  If we go to court, I lose all chance of being able to make ends meet.  But the status quo is making me ill.   I am suffering with migraines and really bad acid reflex because of the resentment of having to come home to a man who hates me and does nothing to help me.   To top it all off, the agreement has him never paying a dime of child support or private tution for her.  Basically, he never has to spend a dime on his child.  Lovely.