Not at all weird - but really exciting!!

Z+ dating = weird

I had not dated or had a man so much as hug me in 3 1/2 years, until I met up with some Ds'ers. I got many hugs, and it just felt awesome. I started dating last aug, and it shell shocked me so bad that I am in isolation again now. I joined a dating site and while I am happy that I over came my fear and put myself out there, I quickly realized that I am not going to find someone that I can connect with there. If I wanted a superficial hook up , then yes, but if I want a serious spiritual connection, then no.
I don't know what is next for me, but I do have my eyes open and if I meet someone that is interested in anything more than a NSA , FB Or FWB, I will definitely be interested. Kimmee

Dating is wierd, the dating world is crazy, and there doesn't seem like there is much out there. I never wanted to be in this position again but here I am, dating again. It sucks and I am not happy about this. I just pray that something goes right for me, finally.

you just enjoy spending time with another human, in that moment, like no other before it; and go from there

It was the weirdest feeling to kiss someone. I even had to tell him the truth. I said "um, I haven't had a first kiss in over ten years. This is weird.".

It's exciting to hang out and possibly "be with" another person other than the ex. :) Weird at first though..

I haven't tried it yet. I have to get divorced first. It's been over 32 years since I went on a first date. From the sound of things here I'll stay off the dating sites.

No dating for me, yet, but I'm open to possibilities!

Lynne

ooooooooooooooooh I know this one!

YES. weird weird weird. The date itself, the experience, not that weird. I feel like Terry Gross on 'Fresh Air' and I like that ... but for me it cannot get out from a sea of weird misty fog...

BUT for some people it goes great. So... um... I have no luck to offer.

But hope! I love to hear about it turn out well! Go Rman! May you find love again!

ps I hear if it's the *right* person, it's not so hard. Specifically, my counselor told me this on Wednesday. So it's fresh news.

Dating has changed so much since way back when I was on the market. It was weird at first. Now, I have gotten more use to it and can relax and have a lot more fun.

It took a few tries to learn the hardship of falling too fast. It is very easy to seem desperate if you venture out too quickly. Confidence makes you look good!

One thing that I have found that helps keep the "games" out of dating is to "hang out" first. If you take away the pressure of it being a "date" away people seem to relax more and you get a better picture of who someone is. Why go through the pressure of dating someone if you don't even know if they are the type of person you want to date? Hanging out take away the pressure of the little things like "am a supposed to kiss her goodbye after the date?".

Meeting for coffee or meeting up to shoot a game of pool is a few examples. Going somewhere with a group of people is good. Go without expectations!!! Be yourself and be honest.

It's much easier to go on a date with someone that I already know, have things in common with.

No thank you.. I think I will remain in isolation for a long long time. Quite possibly another 11 years or so. I dont want anyone around my son. Period. I know you can date and not have people around your children, but he is and needs to be my main focus for quite some time to come.

Dating isn't weird...it's a nightmare. That's why I won't do it anymore.

It can actually be pretty damn fun :)

going out with anyone new will be odd at first, but give yourself some time and not rush it and you'd be surprised how much you are back in the swing of it....You will know what to say and what not to...trust your own feelings...