Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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Mari_0491
Mari_0491

Hi, it's me again. The one with the broken heart. I'm posting again because I'm still hurt even though it's been almost a month since my brakeup. Today something happen. Something that broke my heart for the second time. Me and my ex work together... we talk as two acquaintances nowadays. But today... today when he saw me he looked at me different. I could see it on his eyes. He didn't look at me like before and deep inside of me i got heartbroken again. I still love him but our love is an impossible love so it's better to let go but i just can't. I don't know when i would stop loving him. I am so hurt right now. I'm having a brake down. 

mirandac
mirandac
I would get proactive and stop romanticizing the
Breakup. Get a new job, Go total no contact.

Work on yourself go to therapy, Join a breakup
group. You are grieving and he Doesn't care. Self
protect and self help is my mantra as much as
You can, HUGS
Atpeacemary
Atpeacemary
mirandac is dead right. That is one of the main reason I never dated anyone I worked with. It was my cardinal, ironclad rule. You are young, you should be focusing on your future. Go and upgrade your skills, look for a better job. Focus on yourself. You deserve it. When you see him, just turn around and walk away. Interact with him on work related issues and nothing else.
Nina1957
Nina1957
I live in Toronto where are there break up groups
Saddivorce
Saddivorce
Yes sweet heart we can't make anyone love us, avoid him as much as you could, stop speaking unless the job requires it. Take good care of you, you are hurting right now, be kind to yourself!
Gregory1
Gregory1
That relationship is over period. Let your ex know that your relationship is strictly for work and nothing else. Sorry to be harsh, love yourself! You need to do that before you get into another relationship. Find a good person to talk to regarding your situation because you need to vent constructively, not destructively. And most of all, time to start finding a new job. You need a fresh start and you deserve it.
Mari_0491
Mari_0491
Thanks for all the comments and suggestions everyone.

In terms of finding a new job, i'm stuck there because of need of the salary. But I've been talking to him only about work related issues. However I do feel I need to go no contact with him in order to heal completely. And of course with time.

Thanks...
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