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Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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aggiedolphin823 08/22/2009

The last couple of days have been bad ones for me and I can really use some support from all my friends on here.

For those who don't know what was going on, my ex just got out of jail a week ago after being in for 8 months (he had been there for molesting my niece) and he sent me a message online 2 days ago. I havent responded to any of his attempts to contact me in months now but the latest one has still caused hurt and lots of stress and I have been feeling really low.

deleted_user 08/22/2009

Don't take heed to his words....take heed to his actions. With that shot of reality, let it free you. What he did to your niece should be enough to kill whatever emotions he had going his way from you. He is not worthy of even a second look. Stand tall girly....you are better off without him. He is a sick monster.

aggiedolphin823 08/22/2009

Thank you Z, I just wish there was a way I could guarantee that I never had to hear from him again.

deleted_user 08/22/2009

(((((((hugs)))))))

deleted_user 08/22/2009

Let's see:

1. Create a new email address
2. Block his number from your phone/s
3. Change your number
4. Restraining Order if the above fail
5. YOU must do any or all of the above

You hold the key.

deleted_user 08/22/2009

get a restraining order. it will cover not being contacted over email or any other way online. then if he does he can be arrested. just go do it. and then you dont have to worry about him anymore.

aggiedolphin823 08/22/2009

He doesn't have a number to reach me at any more thankfully. I like the idea of a restraining order, and tried looking online to answer my question but don't see it so maybe someone here knows. Can I just ignore the message he sent the other day or should I write back so I have proof of me telling him not to contact me any more?

deleted_user 08/22/2009

Im not really sure legally what you need, but I think you can email him back with a carbon copyt o yourself saying to please not contact you anymore. Leave it very simple. then if he does you should go right to the courts and get a restraining order.

solongbye 08/22/2009

You've been really strong, keep it up. he's toxic and you don't need him. Chin up.

deleted_user 08/22/2009

hon, just keep in mind *how far* you have come with no contact

now look at yourself as he trys to have contact.

it'll be hard really hard but you can do this and we'll be right beside you

deleted_user 08/22/2009

get a protective order.

MsBlank1 08/22/2009

I know how hard it is to be strong by yourself. So your DS network(sorta like verizon) is here to back you up!
You could be like Lorana Bobbit...."cut it short".....short e-mail stating "no contact ever again."
This way you can keep moving ahead and keep healing!
(((((((hugs))))))))

Lucille6 08/22/2009

((((((((Aggie)))))))Hang in there.Be a smart girl.Be alert to your surroundings.Find out what he looks like currently,usually find out on the jail or prison website.Realize you are a better person for no longer having someone so mentally sick in your life or your head.We are here for you,doll.

deleted_user 08/22/2009

This guy is a pedophile. Why does this even bother you?

aggiedolphin823 08/22/2009

Soon that is part of the reason that it does bother me that he is still trying to contact me, because I don't want any part of him in my life any more.

deleted_user 08/22/2009

then tell him to fuck off.

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