you know what I'm finding/ I'm finding it's hard to be depressed and watch Talldega Nights.

Seriously, I hope you feel better.

When I was going through my separation and then divorce, I would get sick to my stomach whenever I had to deal with my ex. It would throw off my mood and I would cry for days. Then when I would finally start to feel better, he would call me or we'd have to meet to "go over stuff," and he would act oh so happy and ask me why I wasn't dating yet. We were not yet even divorced. It hurt that he seemed to be moving on with his life so willingly without me. It was enough for me to get out of bed in the morning, much less figure out how to fall in love with someone else.

It was a lot easier for me since we didn't have kids. I wouldn't let him come inside the house, no matter the weather. If I could I arranged to meet in a public place so I could pretend I was on my way to another appointment. I would take a friend with me, or tell a friend I was going and ask them to call me at a certain time to give me a reason to break away. Limiting exposure limits the pain.

The good news is that the pain will eventually subside for you. The bad news is that it doesn't happen overnight. I am proof that you will reach the other side and one day tell yourself "whew, I made it!" I've been divorced for a year now and while the painful yucky excruciating emotions are over, I am still dealing with the after effects. We all work on our own timetable.

I feel for ya. I was having such a good day myself until I talked to the stbx and she said tommorow when I go home, she will be at her boyfriends till I leave for work thursday. I sat here the last few days thinking the same thing, maybe she will just dump him and stay with me and work it all out.

Hers a hug for ya anyway, hope you feel better

The pain seems unbearable, I remember those days well. When I fianlly accepted that he would never change is when it got easier for me. When you are in the midst of hell you cannot see the light, there is light, it takes awhile to get there.

I'm with everyone patton...it will subside. Your bad days won't always be so bad...& your "good" days now will get better. (((HUG))) Hang in, I know it's hard to understand it right now. Limit as much contact as you can & you REALLY need to try and not show her or tell her your "personal feelings"...she doesn't REALLY care. If she did, she'd be trying to be with you. Sorry for being harsh. :(

I'm very down and depressed lately. I pray we all have strength to endure and feel better.

Hey man, sorry for all this. I know the feeling you are talking about. but my still denies she is even dating him.

ANYway, it doesnt feel good to hear these things. But one day, you are going to be Ok. You are going to reflect and realize what a selfish inconsiderate B she really is to say those things, regardless of how honest you asked her to be. She could have said it differently. geeze

*guy Bear hug*

Thank you for all the support.

I feel a bit better now. Took a nap and actually rested.

Its a bitch, this whole divorce thing, but im gonna be ok.

I am sorry for your pain. I know how you feel. I actually prefer the anger phase that I am have been going through lately. As time goes by, I find I spend less time in each phase; depression, anger, then doing okay.
((Hugs))

Divorce is like a nasty staph infection. The sore is painful and full of puss and even though they tell you not to touch it you just can't help probing it and wanting to squeeze the infection out hoping that you wont have to keep taking the pills anymore and wonder if the sore will finally go away forever.

Glad you are doing better. Sleep helps me alot. I still have some bad days, but as Joy said, they become less frequent and not so bad. It does take time. Big hugs.

i don't go over to my stbxs house any more.use to have to go,but it was too depressing and found away around the situation.It would just make me angry and depressed.Not worth sacrificing myself.