Be careful with putting things off. You risk being ordered to pay some of your stbx's legal fees if he has to ask his attorney to ask for the court's help in getting your cooperation. Has your advisor given you a timeframe for completing the documents?

Hi mariel: This man is moving on but you're not. Don't tie yourself to a man that doesn't love you or want you. In this modern era, you can't stop the divorce because you feel justified or deep inside you don't want a divorce. This era does not allow one spouse to stop another from divorce.

Many here were surprised, but eventually grateful for a divorce to get away from a person that didn't love them, didn't appreciate them and didn't want them and it gave them their freedom to start a new life.

Playing games is childish and beneath you and can drag it out and will hurt you more than him because you're the one with the feelings. My suggestion is get the divorce over quickly and then put all your energies into working on you and establishing your new life.

Also, if you start playing games, you may find that TWO CAN PLAY and you may not like the way his attorney plays. What he may have considered as giving to you voluntarily, he may now take off the table. Common, be a big girl and get divorce over with. Have a good cry and finish the papers and get them to your legal advisor.

Thanks a lot for the advice. I will send it asap. Im also moving on. Im just not motivated to answer it quickly. But you are right I dont want to pay extra for this divorce.

Hi mariel: I knew you would do the right thing. Keep telling yourself that you ARE a good person, that you are worthy of a person in your life that will really appreciate you and that you want to clean you life of the trash (your spouse). Then you can start working on a complete new life the way you want it to be.

yes, I also think that it is the right thing. Im doing much better since my contact with my STBX was cut.