I think that's a statement for facebook ? rather than people who need help ? or is it just me... :)

Hey this is a website for people that are going through a terrible, emotional time regarding divorce/separation........so let her speak......she is hurting...... Her post relates to expressing her emotions.....we do them in different ways.......

Yes, it must feel good to know that he didn't upgrade, because that would make it feel much worse. Now, at least you can see he can't get better than you........I also wonder who my wife will choose next, I believe it will not be an upgrade as well. It still hurts, but less hurt when they downgrade. take care and God Bless.

1lisak4, I am both. Insulted like darn, I have been called/described any many ways, however, nothing like this...

teuphoo, oh I need help that is why I am here.

Like I said, if you are going to dump me, at least upgrade.

thanks, mgilles44. Yes, it hurts, I am OK but, it still hurts... hugs to you... We will get through this. I feel good and bad.. aaggghhh

If he did get a really hot woman, then his friends could be saying the nasty things about you. That's what I don't like about people who come and tell you that type of garbage.

How about taking the high road and telling friends you don't want to hear anything about who he sees. It's not important what the cosmetic is that's on the outside of someone, but instead what's on the inside, the morals, the honesty, heart and the soul. You heal faster if you don't hear about her and don't focus on her.

very true Lisa and Astimesgoes.. The cousin called me out of the blue and I was shocked at what she had to say about her. As for the firefighter friend, that was his reply. I told them both, it was his choice.

I think they are concerned because, they know me, his ex wife, and his daughters mother. All three of us looking nothing alike but, have careers, good character, head on our shoulders and etc. Basically, she is not what they are used to seeing.

My response would have been... "And I care because?"

I guess these people are trying to make you feel better? Or they just like to be unsolicited commentators on other peoples business.

Who can really say if he "upgraded" or not? Bottom line? If he's happier, he upgraded, if he isn't, he didn't.

All the other bullshit is judging a book by it's cover, and if your that shallow, who needs ya?

i think this reflects whatever crisis the guy's going through, if he needs an atypical type of partner, it's a mental thing. one can be attracted to classic decent well groomed people at one point then have a rebellious crisis and want a radically different partner that comes from another universe and that fulfills a different need in us. bottom line is people should jump around less and marry more with serious commitment.

interesting take lonely.... He did turn 50 last year.

the thing I take away from that is,your firefighter friend cares enough about you that he was trying to make you feel better with a quick side comment

and thats nice :)

Yeah, I kind of took it the same way.

I sometimes people downgrade because that is where they are comfortable.

Maybe joyride, although the cousin and firefighter used different words to describe her, they pretty much said the same thing. chitown, that could be true too.

Maybe her beauty is inside.

The new guy sounds like a jerk. Who cares what she looks like? Try dating outside of your former circles where you can avoid the gossip.