Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
get so screwed over? I had way too much time to think over the last week. I came up with something, I am left pondering and wish to share and get opinions on. When I say "we" it includes anyone that feels as I do and chooses to be included.
We go on this website and give strong, excellent clear advise to one and all. We can all see so clearly what someone else should do or say or not do or not say. I mean it when I say the advise is good and comes from the heart in most cases, you can tell! We are sure we are correct in our responses and the way we view the problems and the solutions. We want to help! In a lot of cases we see our way as the obvious, right way to feel or handle something. We may not understand why others don't see what we see!
Here is the question: If we all know so much and are so right, and see things so clearly why or how did we get ourselves in our own situations? Do we not pratice what we preach? Could we be hypocrites? Are we not as smart as we think we are? Could we all be a bunch of controlling nut jobs? Did we ALL just pick sorry people (but how, we are so smart?!?)?
Healthy debate is good, I think we all could use to see some different ways of looking at things or approaching things, who here can say their way is perfect?? Hello, we are all on DS because "our ways" didn't work, right? We all need to change something, don't you agree? We could all stand to learn or adjust something? I for one welcome people trying to teach this old dog a new trick, just don't be offended if I don't see it your way. After all, your track record is no better than mine!! Your opinions are all welcome! Even if you are not a member of "we"!
We go on this website and give strong, excellent clear advise to one and all. We can all see so clearly what someone else should do or say or not do or not say. I mean it when I say the advise is good and comes from the heart in most cases, you can tell! We are sure we are correct in our responses and the way we view the problems and the solutions. We want to help! In a lot of cases we see our way as the obvious, right way to feel or handle something. We may not understand why others don't see what we see!
Here is the question: If we all know so much and are so right, and see things so clearly why or how did we get ourselves in our own situations? Do we not pratice what we preach? Could we be hypocrites? Are we not as smart as we think we are? Could we all be a bunch of controlling nut jobs? Did we ALL just pick sorry people (but how, we are so smart?!?)?
Healthy debate is good, I think we all could use to see some different ways of looking at things or approaching things, who here can say their way is perfect?? Hello, we are all on DS because "our ways" didn't work, right? We all need to change something, don't you agree? We could all stand to learn or adjust something? I for one welcome people trying to teach this old dog a new trick, just don't be offended if I don't see it your way. After all, your track record is no better than mine!! Your opinions are all welcome! Even if you are not a member of "we"!
this pain and the time the it takes to get divorce some days i make a dicision and next day I change it our thinking is not is good is was before this happen we dont know who to trust anymore and we cant even trust ourself
I PRAY A LOT that helps sometimes this is my life my future but i am still atuch to him
glue because i am still wait for the divorce to became final the house the he dont want to pay to became foreclouser my credit to go all the way to the down and i am still have to get an partment but i dont have the money to move
with all this in mine mind how can i make a rational decision god help me i am smart but
right now i am to tire even to move
I was not always respectful of my children's father. ( A friend of mine suggested I stop saying ex as he is still my children's father and that hurts their feelings)
I did not always take great care of myself physically and stay attractive.
I took my children's father's kindness and shyness as a weakness.
I could have kelp my home better as that was important to him.
Now, all of the above I am doing for myself. I am taking better care of my mind, body and soul. I am working on creating a clean and organized home.
I respect my children's father and dont take his kindness as a weakness. He is a wonderful father. How many fathers do you know that see their children everday, pay child support plus, buy their clothes, attend every sporting event, take his children on weekend get a ways? Well, he does all that and more! So, I appreciate him for that.
He has even commented on how well the house looks, that I look good and he enjoys my company. NO WAY, I am not going back so dont even think about that! LOL
Southern and Road, thanks for your sweet words. Men like you give me hope too!
We all need to hear some things we do not like at times to face reality. Repectful debate is the way my mind can be changed and sometimes it needs to be! Thank you to all that agree or disagree with me on any given day! I hug you too!!