Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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GuyInDarkness 04/26/2012

i want to call her.. im having anxiety... i feel im on edge... but she doesnt want me bugging her.. i know she with that guy... im trying to stay strong, its so hard... idk what to do

deleted_user 04/26/2012

Don't call. I have felt the same thing about my ex partner I wanted to call, to interrupt, make them re-think. But the fact is, they don't want me anymore, and I don't beg for anyone. That said, I try to put it in the context of being able to love them enough to let them do what they need to in order to get by in life. There have been people that weren't enough for me, I turned out to not be enough for them. Still hurts, but tomorrow is another day, and what am I missing in my present by staying in the past?

deleted_user 04/26/2012

Beat her at her own game and don't call. Pay her no attention and have some fun to get your mind off of everything. I know how it is. I've been there. Watch how fast she'll come out of the wood work once you start living your life. I don't understand it but a lot of people out there want what they can't have. However, there are a lot of people who aren't like that. Go and find one of those people and be happy.

deleted_user 04/26/2012

Seriously, if that's what you're thinking.... How old are you?

If you can afford it, go get a nice 1hr or 2hr massage. Make sure you pick a HOT girl to do the massage.

10 minutes in to the massage and you're not even going to remember my post or your post or your ex-girl. Trust me... done it many times while getting over my ex-wife.

After a while, you get to know your massage lady and special things happen. ;)

and then, if that don't work, just hit the strip joints in your area.

If that don't work, hmmm, come back to see us. lol :)

deleted_user 04/27/2012

Your best choice is no contact. Making her feel that she don't matter is the best medicine. When you contact her and call it only strokes her ego and gives her excuse to be mad. Don't feed that fire. It's hard...I didn't follow that advice and it got me grief, hurt and disappointment . Stand strong... It will get better!!

deleted_user 04/27/2012

dang, galvatron has some great ideas. hell yeah, go the massage route.

deleted_user 04/27/2012

Don't call her. Surround yourself with friends and family. Meet new people on www.Meetup.com. Call a friend when you wanna call her. It gets easier. Sorry for your pain but remember just because she doesn't want you doesnt mean you are the problem!

deleted_user 04/27/2012

Lol. Galvatron. "Special things happen". This forum is too much sometimes. Lol

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