Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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GingerAnne 02/18/2017

I have been with my husband since I was 19. (43 now). We have had ups and downs through the years but now that the kids are getting older and my health is improving ( I have dysautonomia and fibromyalgia) it seemed that things were better. No things weren't hot and spicy of course but life was getting very calm and stable for the first time in a long time.

Out of the blue my husband comes in and wants a divorce. He says it was because we have always been up and down and he knows we will crash again. But the truth is he is having an affair with a woman at work. I am destroyed! I just can't do anything but cry. I want to call him and beg him not to do this to our future and our family but I know I will just be seen as desperate.

I know that logically I should let him go and be rid of him but all I can think of is how close we were to having life happy and stable. He is throwing it away and doesn't care! Oh God! I swear I am lossing my mind! Please help

Harley 02/18/2017

I am so sorry! My partner left me a few months ago, so I can understand how painful this is. It was difficult for me to let go. But I have moved on, and it will eventually get easier. Message any time if you want to talk. There are a lot of people on here that know what you're going through. We're here to support you.

ceaser 02/18/2017

I am so sorry for your pain and hurt and I know the feeling of being destroyed and so overwhelmed with emotions. I bet you are an amazing and loving women. If he leaves you than that's his lost especially if he's with a women that would be with a man with a family. He will be the one broken in the end. I promise you that you will find someone that knows your worth and loves you so unconditionally. It's okay to feel your pain and even though it is hard, you need to express it with yourself and fill it to the full extent so you will become so much stronger and better after this pain stops. This pain will pass and you will eventually regret even shedding one tear for him. You are in my prayers.

GingerAnne 02/18/2017

Thank you. It seems that no one in my world wants me to talk about it. Southern ladies put on a strong face to the public but I just feel like crumbling.

ceaser 02/18/2017

Feeling like that is totally normal and understandable. I suggest you look up "how to get over a breakup" on YouTube. Those videos made me feel better when I felt like crumbling.

GettingBetterEveryday 02/19/2017

You've come to the right place . this is a safe place where you can say whatever, whenever you want. It's too much for one person to have to hold in everything. I know cuz that was me. This site has really helped me open up and feel that I'm not alone in my feelings.

speechless1000 02/19/2017

My first husband had an affair- although my life has fallen apart a second time I can assure you it will get better I promise you x

Bevalina 02/19/2017

I'm in exactly the same place as you I had no idea it was going to happen until late I received a text a couple of weeks ago ..things seemed ok I did not see it coming I'm 51 and feel like I will never live again he said we had nothing in common which was like a stab to the heart I had a new sofa delivered yesterday which we chose together new bed last week ..these were big items so I don't understand why he would do that if he intentions of leaving I feel gutted and mortified embarrassed that people will be thinking it's me ..just wish a lot of us lived near I'm of work sick and could do with a friend

tabatha 02/19/2017

I also understand... I'm 49 and my STBX moved out three weeks ago said We don't have the same goals anymore which is not true but I can't stop this train so I take all the advice that's given and try my best .. I also wish we all were in the same area it's hard to talk to people about this if they aren't going through it themselves... thing will get better for all of us ... hugs

JediLin 02/22/2017

@GingerAnne – I’m so sorry. I understand your feelings of despair and sadness. I believe love is a choice and not just a feeling. My husband and I almost divorced 3 years ago and were separated for 3 months. I was asking for a divorce. He never gave up but respected my decision to separate. During those 3 months, he never pressured me and he asked me to attend a marriage in crisis retreat as a last resort. It helped save our marriage, we overcame infidelity, resentment, communication issues and much more. Love never gives up, don’t give up. Please know someone out here is praying for you and your marriage, for love and reconciliation.

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