The feelings are awful! I am feeling the same pending a divorce of a 40 years of marriage. Caught him in bed with my girlfriend. It was a nightmare and it felt so surreal!

Allow yourself to grieve and mourn the loss of the marriage...see a therapist. I am slowly picking up my life again. I am seeing myself out of the trap door - slowly but surely! You brave on, ok.

What you are feeling and experiencing is normal and it sucks!! You were blindsided and felt like you were hit head on by an 18-wheeler. Trying to maintain normal everyday operations is sometimes not possible. I remember feeling like I was in a fog, I couldn't move, I couldn't eat, I couldn't function.

You absolutely must surround yourself with a support system, friends...family...this site. You've got to let those that are stronger prop you up for the next few days, weeks, etc. You will get through this. Read the posts that are here. You'll read about people who have been betrayed, lied to, abused and have come out in the end stronger and better.

You are at a point where it is impossible to see a light at the end of the very long, dark tunnel, but all of us who have been there and can see or have reached the light, will tell you to just put one foot in front of the other, day after day. Some days will be better than others. You will have victories and you will have setbacks. Eventually, the setbacks will happen less frequently than the victories.

A thousand Hugs!

Thanks so much, i saw her today(therapist). At night is the hardest is at night with the empty bed and dark room

One foot in front of the other, doing the Next best
thing. That got me thru the separation And divorce
process with the help of a Good divorce lawyer.

Glad you saw a therapist keep going, attending a
divorce care support group helps, let yourself grieve
your losses, Keep Reaching out to loving, caring,
healthy supportive people. Churches are great at
this time too.

Keep posting on here it helps to vent, you can burden
your friends, co workers and family after awhile. Our
pain, hurt and confusion are so intense and consuming.
HUGS

one day at a time... we are all going through similar troubles together... your pain needs time to heal so let yourself grieve and keep posting on this site . I saw my doctor today to get meds for depression figure it might help. Exercise seems to help also . Sending lots of hugs to you

I know what you are going thru and it is horrible. It will improve though with meds, therapy, prayer and support. Mine happened Sept 15th via email after 19 years. You can get thru this and we can help you because we've been there too.

The feelings of powerlessness and isolation are horrible. I am so grateful for everyone here. I don't have any supports where I am. My family is 900 miles away and I haven't even told most of them. I have 2 friends (also across the country) that I talk/text with, but there's only so much you can burden others with. I miss my friend, my partner.

I'm sorry for your pain. The brokenness and overwhelming emotional effect can almost seem like too much to bear. But this raw emotion is also a chance to experience love and healing. It was only through turning to God that I was able to make it through. I pray you'll find the same.