Breakups & Divorce Support Group
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I'm 58 and have been through divorce after 30 yrs. of marriage, dated a woman for two years, which she ended and which I now see as a blessing in diguise because I failed to acknowledge major red flags. I then entered into a relationship for two yrs which just ended and yes I'm starting to realize that this relationship had red flags.
My concern is that the last two relationships ended primarily because both women wanted to get married, and I wasn't ready because I still had a teenage son at home, who will enter the military next yr.
I've always placed a priority on family and I value that. The last woman I dated never had children and I'm not sure she understood how I felt even though I told her that I valued family.
I should feel lucky that I never married these woman, however I feel sad because it's sooooo hard to find that genuine person. As I become older I do want to settle down with that special person, however it seems as those individuals are far and few between.
My concern is that the last two relationships ended primarily because both women wanted to get married, and I wasn't ready because I still had a teenage son at home, who will enter the military next yr.
I've always placed a priority on family and I value that. The last woman I dated never had children and I'm not sure she understood how I felt even though I told her that I valued family.
I should feel lucky that I never married these woman, however I feel sad because it's sooooo hard to find that genuine person. As I become older I do want to settle down with that special person, however it seems as those individuals are far and few between.
do you realize how rare it is to find a woman at this age willing to marry a man?
again, maybe the red flags were really bad or something. but, it sounds to me like you might have passed up on a couple of good women while holding out for a dream woman who may never show up.
I think I would feel the same as you, If I wasn't ready for marriage and the person I was going with kept insisting on marriage, I would flee the scene. I had a neighbor who is in his 40's who come talks to me once in a while. We kind of decided his last girlfriend cared MORE about the piece of paper than she did about him, or she wouldn't have been pushing so hard.
I do think that it is really tough at any age to find a genuine person.
I wish you luck, look for red flags, and listen to your gut.
I have lots of reasons I will never even think of getting married again.
I am now with a man, some distance away, who is separated but definitely not wanting a divorce because of the children and general chaos that comes from this, even though his wife is with another man. Very happy with this, however, as the above people said, do really truly think why it is that you dont want to commit completely, or you may miss out. Dont miss that special someone because of the wrong red flags!! Good luckX
I guess it doesn't matter here or there. I guess its about finding the person for the relationship that we want. If one is really persistent on something that is a deal breaker for you then you have to do what you need to.
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