Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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JBroken 07/29/2017

I am so heartbroken. I don't even know why I should be feeling like this. He is living his life having fun doing what and who he wants. I am here left with the home responsibilities and my child. He has cheated and disrespected me repeatedly. It didnt matter that I was always there for him. I work, in keep the house clean, I cook, I do his laundry and most important I take care of our child. Financially we are in a bind because of him. There is no reason why I should feel so broken. I deserve so much better I know that.

It's just 14yrs of my life waiting for him to finally value me to respect me to take care of me. For us to go out as a couple, on vacation as a a family. Just us and the world. All in my head clearly. I know it's his loss I know I kept my vows and did what I thought was expected. So why why am I dying inside. I keep it together because of my son but I'm dying inside. I just pray that the pain ends. I hate hearing my son telling me he misses his father he is sad because his father is gone. He has caused us both so much pain because he refuses to grow up and put his family before his own wants.

So why bother getting married and having a child if he just wasn't going to mature. Why bring us down with him in his world full of pain. If he wasn't going to break the cycle why drag us with him.

Sorry for the rant. I just need to get these feelings out without crying in front of my son.

sjs777 07/29/2017

you a appear in love with the relationship and what it could be and not neccesarily your spouse or his actions. take time to grieve the loss and move through the anger. the hardest thing to accept is that we cannot control the actions of another, no matter how much we wish for it. we all rise up from the ashes - hugs

i will also add that you will frustrate the heck out of yourself trying to rationalize the actions of a wayward spouse. what you can do, is live life for you and your son - embrace the positive

sam445 07/29/2017

Hi I'm going through a similar situation as you, I know its tough but opening up like you are doing does make things easier and helps with the recovery. Things will get easier over time I know it doesn't seem that way now but they do

sjs777 07/29/2017

absolutely seek support. those closest to me were my wife's friends and family. i chose to join free meetup groups, read, and break the cycle of negative thoughts. its a process, day by day, step by step. you're never alone. seek the support of like minded people who genuinely care for you

ElizabethM 07/29/2017

You should be happy that he left...and one day you will be. The problem is that you had dreams of ever after and because your husband is selfish, immature and broken, you have to come to the realization that your "ever after" is going to look different than what you envisioned.

In the long run, you will see that your updated "ever after" is going to be so much better than what you originally thought. You cannot stay with someone who cheats on you and have things end well. You said that you deserve better. You're right. So, keep telling yourself that, and put you and your son first. Get counseling and start living your new life without your cheating husband. You can do this!!! Focus on on the next chapter of your life. Envision you and your son walking on a beach, building sandcastles and jumping in the waves. You don't have the drama in your life that your husband brought to you.

You're not broken and you can't fix your husband. So get on with your life and if you want to some day meet a nice man, make room for him in your life and in your heart.

Hang in there!!

JBroken 07/29/2017

Thank you all for your kind words. You are all right. I know logically this is right. It's going to be about 2 months since he left it just feels like 6. I take it Day by day. I just can't wait for the day I feel no more pain. I know I will find the right man for me. I just have to get through this. I just hate feeling like I am dying inside. It like I actually feel my heart breaking piece by piece, crack by crack.

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