There is no real easy way through it. Look back and smile about the great times... that you had the ability to experience great memories... but play the tape all the way through...it is okay to miss those good times, but remember you are where you are because something wasn't working anymore. Create new great memories. Spend those days doing something YOU love. As time passes and you look back, it won't hurt so much. "Happiness is a moment, not a destination."

you will get through this week!! distract yourself! start a new tradition with just yourself or your friends then when this week rolls around next year you will be focused on that:)

We understand you here. We know how painful it is. It's okay to cry and go through the pain, it will peak and then it will ebb eventually, and you can ride it out like a wave. Sometimes the pain can feel so intense, like it will never end--but it will, if you let it run its course, just allow yourself to feel it when you need to.

And in the meantime, as others above have suggested, you can do kind things for yourself that you enjoy, and create new memories and traditions--and remember as eelizabeth said, to play the tape all the way through so that you remember the whole picture, not just the good parts...that is something that I have been finding really helpful.

Sending hugs to you.

besides your aching heart,

whats your spirit wanting to do?

any yearnings at all that are just for you?

Remember the Good, then remember the Bad. Then know that you will be in a better place and mind set a year from now when you will look back at today and also know that Today you are in a better place than a month ago, three months ago and a year ago. The Future is yours. Hugs. We are here journel away!

Hugs! Lots of hugs!

I understand how it feels, the dates and what memories they bring.
Just hang in there , do something good for yourself.

Sending many hugs your way !

I know exactly how you feel. Try to distract yourself by maybe getting into a really good book and falling in love with the character? Go online and search reviews to find one you'll really like or re-read one you know you love!

(((hugs)))

I wish I could say something that could help buffer the pain.

I completely understand how overwhelming and painful and terrifying it is. I remember what it's like to have to remind myself to breathe.

It will get better. Today it doesn't feel that way, I know...but allow yourself to look around at those who have been exactly where you are, and are now healed....and allow yourself to draw hope and comfort from the knowledge that this pain isn't forever. (((more hugs)))

Thank you to all my DS family. Yes it is very hard. I am crying constantly. Someone says Hi and I bust into tears. This is so crazy. I knw what this man did to me. How he rip my heart out and stomped on after taking a knife and stabbing me and twisting to mangle what was there. Today, the pain is a little les. I hope I can just keep moving forward. Once again. thank you for all your kind words. I couldn't do this with you guys.