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my feelings about an inanimate object.
In the early years of my marriage, I worked in a dehydrated powder manufacturing facility, We made baby formula. The guidelines to being an employee there, involved not wearing a ring that had a stone, smooth bands were ok. New supervisor tried to make me remove my wedding band. Union plant, argument ensued, I stood my ground and quipped, "She placed this on my finger as a token of her love, and like her love, this ring, I will never let it down" Stoic words, later in life I did have to remove it for a cpl surgeries.
Now that ring hangs on a chain, dangling from a figurine in my bedroom. Sorta like "Quinn" in the movie, "Jaws" and his adverse feelings toward life jackets. "No, Chief, I will never place a wedding band on my hand again"
Are there inanimate items you will never associate with again?
Also I read of triggers a lot, this past Memorial weekend, it hit me, 4 yrs ago she strayed, I think Memorial Day will always be a trigger, sorry if the above has been covered before, just getting it off my chest/mind.
In the early years of my marriage, I worked in a dehydrated powder manufacturing facility, We made baby formula. The guidelines to being an employee there, involved not wearing a ring that had a stone, smooth bands were ok. New supervisor tried to make me remove my wedding band. Union plant, argument ensued, I stood my ground and quipped, "She placed this on my finger as a token of her love, and like her love, this ring, I will never let it down" Stoic words, later in life I did have to remove it for a cpl surgeries.
Now that ring hangs on a chain, dangling from a figurine in my bedroom. Sorta like "Quinn" in the movie, "Jaws" and his adverse feelings toward life jackets. "No, Chief, I will never place a wedding band on my hand again"
Are there inanimate items you will never associate with again?
Also I read of triggers a lot, this past Memorial weekend, it hit me, 4 yrs ago she strayed, I think Memorial Day will always be a trigger, sorry if the above has been covered before, just getting it off my chest/mind.
But I will tell you, I have spent 16 years trying to be what he wanted me to be. I was never proffessional enough, ladylike enough, too thick, too thin. It just seem like each item of clothing I bought I did because I wanted to make him happy. He was unable to ever be happy within himself and he pushed that on me. I thought it was me. Though now I know it wasn't me.......I have to start all over and get what I want for ME!
Only problem now is Im broke..lol. Good thing I wear a uniform every day...lol
The inanimate object, every single dress, shirt, blouse, pants, skirt, etc. And I will probably never wear a sundress again. I don't like them, never have and he always said I wasn't ladylike enough so I bought some and wore them FOR HIM. And he still wasn't happy.
Lots of things, actually--the "stuff" you accumulate during a life together... I'm walking around the house sort of numb to all the "us" things. I really need to get packed and move out, but that's such a major step... and I'll lose the cats when I do that. :(