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I know I have probably outstayed my welcome here and I feel really bad asking for help. I just have been having a hard time with the Holidays and then just twenty minutes ago... I went to get something out of office managers printer and when I walked in the office, there was my ex sitting at the desk. I was absolutely speechless and felt like running. I havent seen her in 3 to 4 months and I was mortified. I got my paper, said "Hi Cory" and continued to walk back to my office. As I was heading back, I stopped in a spare office to tell my son to get ready to head home and I'll be damned if he wasn't playing on the computer with Matthew... Cory's little boy who I love with all my heart! MORTIFIED X 2!!!!!
I gave him a high five and he came up to me and gave me a huge hug! I told him I love him and miss him and joked with him for a minute and I came back here to my desk in a full blown panic!
I knew the day would come where I would be forced to see them but it caught me off guard completely. I wish I could explain just how upsetting this is to me. I am scared to death right now because it brought all kiinds of feelings back!
Please tell me I did the right thing by acting the way I did and pray that I heal quickly from the loss that I am feeling deep in my heart. I actually feel hate and love at the same time if that sounds possible. I and angry and empty, stronger and yet still afraid.
I always have images of them being in love and after all they hgave done to me I want to throw up....
I guess I am venting again.... Just hope someone can tell me its going to be ok and once again... I am not alone.!
Jim
I gave him a high five and he came up to me and gave me a huge hug! I told him I love him and miss him and joked with him for a minute and I came back here to my desk in a full blown panic!
I knew the day would come where I would be forced to see them but it caught me off guard completely. I wish I could explain just how upsetting this is to me. I am scared to death right now because it brought all kiinds of feelings back!
Please tell me I did the right thing by acting the way I did and pray that I heal quickly from the loss that I am feeling deep in my heart. I actually feel hate and love at the same time if that sounds possible. I and angry and empty, stronger and yet still afraid.
I always have images of them being in love and after all they hgave done to me I want to throw up....
I guess I am venting again.... Just hope someone can tell me its going to be ok and once again... I am not alone.!
Jim
You did just fine - Awesome job! Didn't give her the satisfaction!
And yes, it is a punch to the gut.
Only time will help with healing your heart.
Breathe, breathe.
i have no idea what I would do if I saw my step daughters anytime soon.
Its hard but you ahve done it
and i think you actedwell your dignity is in tact. xxxxx
yes I understand the anger and love there together....
She sprang that on you - ! b**ch ... srry but i find it helps to just call a spade a spade
but you were polite...and with the little boy you got to give him a huge hug - I am so happy for you with that!
I'm sorry for the emotions... UGH.... I don't know what else to say except you would never wear out your welcome here
On the weekend I signed up on a dating site..it was a fricken disaster. All it showed me was those emotions can flood you at an instant. I finally started hitting it off with one guy - and his name was the same as my ex. WTF...
(( hug! ))
i have to believe time heals all
this is the place to vent i've been doing it all night ... you are not alone in your pain
Jim, please realize that you handled this beautifully and right now, you are still hurting. These moments are going to be tough but each time it happens, it will get easier.
And you are not wearing out your welcome. That's what this site is for--venting to those who have walked this journey before you.
Sending hugs!!! Stay strong.
We are all here anytime you need us.
He is obviously a sweet, loving kid and she feels it is ok to stop out of the blue un-announced, to squeeze your emotions one more time.
I am so sorry you have this difficult spot to deal with.
I hope and pray you can find some peace again tonight. Breathe really deep to find some calm. I am so sorry this happened, especially right now before Christmas.
A very big ((hug))
Years ago before I married I had the unfortunate circumstance to continue to work with one of my exes after a break up. I also got to watch as he started flirting with my co-worker then subsequently started to date her. I was mortified.
One night when it was rather painful to watch, I left work to go call a friend in my distress. She just talked to me and told me that it was no biggie and I would soon be over him. She was right. He was a jerk for the way he acted and and a few months later I was over him.
You will get over her; you will move past this. It's going to take some time, but it will happen. Since this was the first time you saw her since the split it's going to feel like you were punched in the gut. BUT! That was the worst of it I'm sure. From now on, things like this will hit you with less intensity than that first time. You'll grow accustomed to that uncomfortable feeling and eventually you won't feel the discomfort anymore at the mention of her name or when you happen to run into her.
BTW, that was really low of her to show up there. She knows how you felt about her and what happened with your friend. What a rotten thing to do to you. Speaks volumes about her lack of character and sensitivity in regard to how her actions affect others. Given what she did to you in the break up, I guess I shouldn't be surprised.