Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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BrooklynnMB 05/09/2015

I think one of the hardest parts of a break up is being alone on the nights when you don't feel like going out.

Take tonight for instance. I worked 11 hours, have a bad cold, work at 6 am tomorrow and all I want to do is eat, have a beer, shower, lay on the couch and go to bed. Thing is. I'm sooo lonely.

My friends are great, but sometimes I just want to stay home. A friend even asked me to come over and help her study. It would be a great distraction and usually I would say yes, but I'm just sooo tired and really don't feel like driving the 20 minutes to her house and then the 20 back. And I want to go to bed in 2 hours at the latest, so by the time I eat, walk my dog, shower, going to her house wouldn't really be worth it.

So right now I just want that special someone to lay on the couch with me.I miss him so much. I value my me time, don't get me wrong, but I've had waaay too much lately.

I'm going to church after work with a neighbor tomorrow. After that I'm going to that friend's house. So I'll be busy tomorrow with friends. Today though I'm feeling pretty rough. Living alone totally sucks.

sja 05/09/2015

I know exactly how you feel. Loneliness can be overwhelming and scary. It is OK. I don't have any tips for you, but as your going to church, you must try and remember, with God, you are never truly alone. I know that isn't much of a comfort, but maybe it can give you strength when you are feeling lonely.

kbbcoop77 05/09/2015

Once you break the habit of having someone you will cherish your alone time. It's healthy to learn to be comfortable alone. After my split I was going apeshit crazy being alone but now I like it. Don't have to answer to anyone, do what I want when I want, it takes time to get there and I never thought i would but it really happened. Just takes time. Don't leap into a relationship for the sake of being in one, they take work and compromise. Learn to be by yourself for a bit so you can be more choosy who u end up with.

murphytoronto 05/09/2015

i forced myself to say yes to every offer...
To get out...meet people ...be sociable

But sometimes would have such bad anxiety and panic attacks I would only make it to the venue and turn around and go home to cry again

I did start to appreciate my home time with just my cats
But not all the time

It all gets so much better in time

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