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I'm so lost.

IDidThisToMyself
IDidThisToMyself
My fiance broke it off with me. He has bad anger problems, and I'm sure it got the best of him. I'm so confused. I'm so hurt.

I wish I could cut. I don't know what to do.
deleted_user
deleted_user
First are you sure you did it to yourself.

Honey, your kind of vague so not really sure what you are asking.
deleted_user
deleted_user
This may be bad advice considering where I'm coming from, but FUCK HIM!

If he can't stay with you before you got married, then what makes you think he will after?

I'M SCORNED, SO I'M BIASSED!
BUT THAT'S MY 2 CENTS.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Wish you could cut what???? Honey if he has bad anger problems, better to know that now and to let him go than think you can fix him. YOU CAN"T!!!!!!!!! Do not even try.
deleted_user
deleted_user
There are overlapping issues here & I don't feel qualified to help you because I am afraid of saying the wrong thing.
Questions:
Did he know you were a cutter when the relationship began?
Did you cut during your relationship with him?
Has he expressed fears about it?

It's very scary to love a cutter and live in fear of them hurting themselves all the time. If knows about your problem he may have felt that his loving you would be enough to make it stop.
I don't know your story or his and this would really need to be much more specific & I really think you need professional help with this and would need to take him with you. But I do care and I will listen. ((((((hug))))))