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Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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imiru 09/22/2016

I just finished talking to a friend about what happened to me this past week and she agrees. The weekend I was supposed to see other friends and have a girl's night I ended up going to my boyfriends because he needed me there to lean on me. We made up and of course had sex but then this following week.....with him ignoring me completely then said we are done......I never stopped to realize he just needed to get his dick wet one last time then call it quits.

I feel used, I feel disgusting, I feel like I need to beat someone up. I'm so pathetic for falling for his, " I'm so sorry," speech and then letting him take what he wanted just to leave me broken and confused.

tynee5511 09/22/2016

The same thing happened to me this past weekend and I thought it so I took me a step back don't do it it's detrimental to your heart and it takes you backwards in the healing process so he got one last time it's up to you to make that his last and final time so they can't hurt you anymore so just use what he did as strengthen I know it hurts but you can't make someone care who doesn't. Take it one day at a time but you have to move on can't let him do that to you

mirandac 09/22/2016

Its a lesson learned dont keep beating yourself
Up, many of us have stayed when we shouldnt
And sex happens. Just work on yourself don't
worry about him. Let yourself grieve your losses
And Go to a therapist to help guide you. Stay No
contact, no social media, no texting or calling.
Nothing. HUGS

geekinla 09/23/2016

IMIRU, first, DO NOT beat yourself up. You are human and you want to be loved, and thought that this person was offering that. It is so hard to say no when that hurt part of us that is deep inside that thinks someone wants us. And as women, we tend to think that sex means love and if he sleeps with us, he must love us. As much as it hurts, look at this as something you learned...you never want to feel this way again. You don't want to be with someone who treats you like this. Focus on how you want to be treated...tell your own story about how the situation should have gone. And know that the person in that story is out there. I know that kind of feedback does not help when you are in the kind of sadness and pain you are, but I know this for you and hope that very soon you can see it for yourself. Say goodbye to the guy who would sleep with you and then call it quits as that is not a man who adores you and holds your heart as something to be cherished. You don't need that kind of person in your life as you deserve so much more. And again, don't beat yourself up. You did the best you could in that moment. And that's enough.

samantha717 09/23/2016

I agree ... don't beat yourself up over this. Just let it be confirmation of what a jerk he really is and that getting him out of your life can only be a good thing. Tomorrow morning, he's going to wake up still a selfish idiot and you'll wake up still being too good for him.

HopefulJacob96 09/23/2016

I'm sorry that this happened to you... Ultimately, you can't let it keep you down. The negativity wins when we allow it to keep us down. As others have said, take it a day at a time and hopefully things will gradually improve until you feel a lot better

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