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I'm seriously laughing at him....

Sillydutoit
Sillydutoit

Hello!! Been here many times. Read alot of post, alot I can totally relate to. So, here's my first post. I have to share this. The soon to be ex and I had a conversation today. First time since we split(after I found out he was cheating) that we actually talked. No screaming or name calling. No one hung up.  Here is something he said that I just about lost it(laughing). Did you know when your married and you claim to have "moved on", that isn't cheating. LOL, what!?!?!? He decided to "move on", I call it cheating before separation and divorce was even mentioned. Since we've separated I've realized that his is definitely a narcissist! 

Atpeacemary
Atpeacemary
Hugs, my friend. Yes, laughing is the best thing we can do when they are around. Really, so he said that moving on is not cheating. wow. That is a new one. If it is possible go "No Contact" as possible. I really piss him off when I see him. I smile, that nice smile of a snake about to bite, turn around and walk away. It has been 10 years and it still rankles him that I got away. Being happy and flourishing is our best revenge. Hugs.
mirandac
mirandac
My ex asked for a divorce so he could have a better
Relationship with his woman friend of a few years. I
told him No dating if he stayed at home until the divorce.

He left in a big hissy fit and moved over to his mothers
stating, BUT ITS ALL OVER.

I guess in his mind its okay to date, have sex, go away
and do Whatever because it was all over.

To me Married people don't date, separated or not.
He Was still legally and morally married not single.
HUGS
ripped_my_heartout
ripped_my_heartout
Ah, narcissist. I know that word all too well. I got so sick of the games and name calling. She said I had trust issues that she's just exercising. I find out she's sleeping with other men. Lots of them. Her idea of exercise. I know now why I had trust issues. No contact has been a blessing for me. Stay strong -HUGS-
SuZQ
SuZQ
So sorry!! You are dealing with so much! He is "cheating" if you are married.

Underneath your laughter, is there hurt? Before I knew that my ex- was having a four-year affair, I thought I was the one with the problem! When I found out, I sought professional help, I started to understand his narcissism, and I got healthier. Have you considered counseling? Leslie Vernick's books also were also very helpful (e.g The Emotionally Destructive Marriage). Getting professional help was key for me. Praying that you will find "help" for your situation!
liv94
liv94
Realization and laughter is the best for breakups. Narcissism was a big part of my realationship and I didn't get to realize it until it was all over with. My ex cheated on me, he refused it. He went through my phone, I caught him, and he still denied it. After being broken up a little over a month (we were together 7 years), he's already in a relationship with another girl. The way our exs think is astounding. I'm laughing right there with you ❤️
Sillydutoit
Sillydutoit
Thanks for sharing! At least now I know I'm not the only one experiencing this! I'm still laughing :) He still thinks he didn't cheat, just moved on. Yes, everything is always someone else fault, NEVER his!!!! Any way, thanks so much for your responses and I'll look into some recommended sites!!!
Sillydutoit
Sillydutoit
Thanks ChelseaLeigh!!! I read it and yeah,,,SO HIM!!
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