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I'm losing my sanity, please help.

Karmensiamami2323
Karmensiamami2323

Student -Mother of a 7 yr. old and 5 yr. old. Currently going through a divorce. 


Losing my mind trying to raise my 2 kids in a city I don't know anything about; or, know anyone else besides my soon to be ex husband. I was verbally and physically abused everyday; so, I left with my kids and we are now living in a homeless shelter. Things are getting better, I'm going to school, attending internship programs (can't wait to start working) have both of my kids with me and I'm being strong for them but, I feel like I'm losing my sanity and my anxiety's getting worse because I don't like to talk to my family and friends about my issues. They don't even know my kids and I are in this situation and homeless. What should I do? Also he's trying to tell me he doesn't want divorce because he loves me and still cares for me but, I feel like he's trying to manipulate me out of it because he doesn't want to pay: child support, alimony and also wants to keep me and my kids as dependents to collect v.a benefits. I feel so numb, I can't sleep at night nor able to focus in school.  

Bobby5000
Bobby5000
Seems like you understand him pretty well. Try not to have contact with him and good luck creating a new life.
bmio
bmio
Hey, how you feelin now? I hope you are feeling better. Cause you should girl! Look at yourself. You are a strong, independent woman, trying so hard. I think you are doing great! Not anyone can be this strong. Keep doing it, everything's gonna be just fine. Don't push yourself so hard, you can feel bad, you can cry. It doesn't mean you are weak and can't get it through. It means you are doing totally great. We are just human. Things will come and past. I am sending you love. Hugs.
Nicholas1993
Nicholas1993
You are doing an amazing job Ms. It's tough to find the strength to leave after what you went though. You are being an awesome mom too!

I can understand the stress and the anxiety but it's only going to be temporary because you are on a good path with school and all.

I don't know your family...but as a father, if my daughter said she was in a homeless shelter I would help her no matter what the situation is between us. So maybe think of reaching out to them. They are family. Yes, everyone has their own problems but that's what family is for. I don't like talking issues with them either but I do if it's major.

Just something to think on! Continue to ignore him and move on. Maybe she a pro-bono lawyer to help.
OLDBIKER
OLDBIKER
Hang in where you are. A man who loves his wife does not verbally, mentally or physically abuse her. Don't be afraid to share things with your family. Sometimes we have to call on family members to help in diverse situations.
Karmensiamami2323
Karmensiamami2323
Thank you all so much for the kind words, advice and encouragement. My friends and family are very judgemental that's why I always kept my personal stuff to myself. Reading posts and just talking to people on here has helped me a lot. I appreciate you guys and hope everything turns out well for you also. Hugs to you all
tartanscotty
tartanscotty
Bless your loving heart he's done with now save up some money and I pray people will help you home hang on in there Loving Earth Angels are about I do hope you and your children get help. Bless you ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
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