Hey Blixxa; First your not a moron. Since my ex girfriend ended things after 2 years. I waited a couple of months and joined a couple of dating sites. Nothing to be scared about. I am sure you will do fine just be you.

don't feel stupid - it is normal to have those anxieties. I'm strngly thinking of signing up for Evan Katz's course on online dating..he has great materials! Google him and check him out. Internet is a wonderful way to meet people but you need to be savvy. There are genuine people out there as well asplenty of flakes. you don;t have to meet anyone by the way until you feel comfortable enough. With the right person it will feel comfortable. I was in a long distance and we didn't get to meet (trans continental) until we had known each other about 13 months. We just didnt' have the money - but you know what the trip was awesome cos we had built such a solid friendship first. I don't know if I would have the courage to meet someone straight off without knowing them on some level - it's for you to decide.

There are also less confrontative ways to mingle..finding clubs (like interest clubs) or group you can socialize with etc.

You're not a moron. Actually, online dating is part of the norm these days. I've had a couple friends find great relationships using them. I personally, have never been on a date with someone I met online, but I have made profiles before.

Your friends are right--if anything, it'll boost your self esteem. Especially that you're female, I bet you'll get flooded with messages daily. You don't necessarily have to find someone on the site. But it's great just to see what's out there and what they're looking for. That's what I use it for.

ive met some really nice guys on there.

IMO online dating helps me acknowledge that my ex isn't the only man in the world. There is a huge sea of fish out there just waiting to be caught. I have yet to meet anyone worthy of my attention in real life, and the only place I find anyone to keep my attention is at the bars, which that never lasts.

I also know a few people that have had successful, long term relationships with people that they met online. Just try it, and you never know who you will meet. If anything, you can meet some really nice, caring guys that can just be your friends. Just meet somewhere public. Good luck.

Im on online dating. Haven't had much luck yet, but you will find better people on there, than down at the local bar. Besides it is the norm these days.

If you are having second thoughts that your not ready - trust your gut. Concentrate on yourself - not him or her. They are not worth your time or the space in your head.

thanks you guys. I did get alot of replies to my profile and got scared, had a nice panic attack and closed my accounts. I feel bad for the guys that wanted to get to know me. I hope I didnt miss out on my soul mate but I just cant do it right now. I dont know when I'll be ready to let anyone in again. I hope one day I can. :'(

I met someone through online dating. You just have to go into it to saw and be able to weed through the bullshit. Take it from me , the bullshit will flow.

To be honest, though, I am not sure I would consider it again. I like the conventional, old-fashioned way. That just proves to be too difficult sometimes, depending on your age and likes.