Together 8 yrs, married 4 and a half. Many ups and downs, jobs lost, new jobs, a few minor surgeries on my end. A beautiful little boy who is ours and he's 4 now. Total blended family though...she had 2 kids, I had one, for a total of 4. Ages 4, 9, 12, and 16. Counseling for about 6 of the 8 years, three different counselors. It seems she shopped counselors until she found a woman that seems to totally agree w/ her. This counselor is very unethical, she takes sides, showed disrespect and anger towards me almost right away in front of my wife, talked about clients leaving her, took things very personal, falsely accused me of irresponsible meds, etc... Its important because this same counselor was wife's support system and catapult for this entire situation, up until the day my wife said its time for me to go, we are done, she is filing for the divorce, she's done. Keep in mind, Just weeks before this, she said she loved me...and she said it first, not back to me. There were consistent arguments about my angry reactions to her decisions, parenting, and how she treated me as a husband. She's very controlling, I could never win w/ her. Whatever I did was almost always wrong after we were married. She could never side w/ me either. She was quick to see me negatively when troubles arise, couldn't stay by my side, often stuck up for others and not me, blamed me a lot. Got to be a lot of arguing. The most pressing arguments were about her 16 yr old, which I'm NOT allowed to talk about. After years of finding out the hard way, she was VERY defensive of anything about him. So, one month ago, I had to correct him yet again...I only did so when I felt it something was just unacceptable. That was usually how he treated the 4 and 9 yr old boys. He has angry outbursts at times, not daily, just sometimes. These displays show no regard for what happens though. For example, swinging a door back at the 4 yr old who played a simple prank. Well, "Mr. 16 yr old" did not like this at all. He does not like me, he lies to me, I call him on it, which is why he hates me, but I do call out his b/s to him...and his lies, point being, he lies to me and about me...often. So, when the 4 yr old closed the door on him, he WHIPS it back open, totally out of anger, I calmly told him and my wife as well, its unacceptable, asked my wife to say something to him, anything would have been fine. She does not, will not, and tells me its a "natural reaction"?? Really? Sooo, I went and told him. I said its unacceptable, he gave another excuse as always that clears him of any responsibility, so at that point, if he's not gonna admit to doing it either, which I saw the ENTIRE thing w/ my own two eyes (wife did too), I said I will have to "get an agency or the law involved if he cannot stop" harming or attempting to harm a 4 and 9 yr old. I walked away...pissed! I believe I said "son of a bitch" at the situation to myself as I walked away, so tired of this w/ him and how many times Ive had to tell him. The next thing I know, I get a TEXT from my wife saying I need to go, its over, I need to leave the house ASAP. I got a lawyer, took 2 weeks, gathered my stuff...moved and I'm out. That 2 weeks, she treated me like a ghost, ignored me heavily, treated me like a total piece of s**t....after a child and 8 yrs together...everyday! So, I'm now in a good place where I can see my kids w/ no problems, but also trying to get my wife talking about this. She just keeps bringing me things I left behind, and told me she still intends to file divorce. I am sad, I am trying to talk facts w/ her about things that led to this, we agreed no nasty texts, I get nothing back, Ive been away for a week and I just feel no closure at all, I feel I did NOT get a fair shake in all of this. I tried to keep this short, a lot left out, this is the gist. I would love feedback. I'm not a right-fighter like my wife. It seems she would rather be right than healthy and happy...but I like honesty and correcting mistakes, and I have np taking responsibility. This is very tough on me and not my choice either. Thanks for listening.