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I keep thinking I'm okay and I'm not

spotlessmindhelp
spotlessmindhelp

ive been trying to be strong for the past few days thinking I'm okay. My ex used to control everything about me. The way I dressed and everything and now I feel incredibly guilty for wearing shorts to school today and he saw me and now I feel as if I ruined any chance of getting back together. I'm sorry if I sound stupid for saying that but he was my bestfriend and I miss him greatly someone please help me. I really don't think we will get back together, we've broken up too many times for us to be fine again. He thinks we will be friends later on but I just can't do that. I can't go from being in love with him and being best friends to being acquaintents. I have NOBODY not one person. I can't even cry infront of my parents or show that this bothers me so I feel like I'm constantly holding all of this in. I just want him back, I miss everything about him. Today is his birthday and it's making me so sad. I would greatly appreciate it if i could make some friends on here who know what this feels like. Please help me fight this loneliness. I've thought about taking my life multi

spotlessmindhelp
spotlessmindhelp
Multiple times. Please help
ElizabethM
ElizabethM
Life can be challenging at times, but it always gets better. Do not commit a permanent solution for a temporary problem. I'm sure people have told you, you're young and you're probably tired of hearing it. But sweetie, you have so much life in front of you.

I know you don't believe me now, but you are going to find someone who is more compatible with you. You're going to look back on this time and realize that your break up was a good thing. I'm in my early 50s and it has taken me time to see that things always work out for the best.

Take in a long deep breath while counting to 5. Hold it for 5 seconds and let it out for 5 seconds. Do this several times whenever you feel the weight on your chest. Journal how you're feeling. Go back and read the journal daily. Write down the negatives about your ex BF. Read that several times a day. Give it time and you will feel better.
I_want_to_heal
I_want_to_heal
Spotlessmindhelp, I understand the pain you are going through. Some days it's unbearable, other days you can't help but feel like you could just go back in time and change things. The reality of "everything is different now" seems to shock your whole being. Other days, you feel like you wish you could just run far away and start a new life. I've heard, I've read and I've researched that time brings healing to the soul. The fact is, time doesn't really do that if you hold on to the past or hold onto a relationship that is no longer there. I've had to come to terms with the fact that it was over. I desperately wanted things to be as they once were. I cried and prayed that my relationship would be restored. The truth is, even if we got back together, the relationship would not be the same. I had to admit that what we had is now over. To help you, when you begin to think of your past relationship, say out loud to yourself so that you hear it, "my relationship is over. There is no restoration possible. I give myself permission to heal and move on." In doing so, you don't have to wait for time to bring healing, instead, you take a proactive approach to your healing.