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Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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GuyInDarkness 02/14/2013

well... its a long story so ill try to keep it short.. basically me and my ex went through a hard break up.. well.. i wouldnt say she went through it hard. i was in hell... after 6 months being apart, we get back together. things seemed great at first, better then ever!! better then last time we were togehter.. i was doing my best to keep her happy, keep her loved. its been 5 months since we got back together, and about a week ago, she tells me that she basically feels nothing for me. that she no longer loves me or feels a spark for me.. tells me that shes not happy when im around.. we did have some bumps along the road to getting back together but i didnt think there were serious bumps, little arguements of stupid reasons. really the arguements made no sense that i didnt even want to have the arguement. she tells me that she would be way more happier if i wasnt with her... i told her ok.. all i want is you happy... when i hear her voice.. its like a different person. i can tell she doesnt even want to talk with me.. like she is irratated that im talking with her.. i told her that she didnt have to force herself to be with me, that she could of just told me in the beggnging. but she told me during the months she wanted to tell me but was afraid of telling me, cause she doesnt want to hurt me again like last time.. i feel nothing anymore... the last couple of years have been so hard... loosing my mother... my sister... the woman i thought was the love of my life twice... god or who ever is watching over me must really not care for me.. i have no more tears to cry.. i havent slept really in about 3-4 days now.. i cant sleep. cause when i do sleep i hope i never wake up.. i prefer.. i wish i could just stay in my dreams. for there the only place were i see some happiness in my life... such a small bit of happiness...

deleted_user 02/15/2013

Guy, there is good news and there is bad news. The bad news is that initially your loss will hurt like hell but the good news is, if you can pull through these times of hurt it will get better and it will hurt less until one day it won't hurt at all.
Think of this as another of life's learning experiences. In this situation, it really is her and not you. This wasn't the right relationship for her and you don't want to be with someone who does not love you, treat you well and is going to resent you for the rest of your life. You deserve to be loved and happy. You deserve to be with someone who loves you and is happy to love you. Stay strong it'll get better.

solitudeisnear 02/15/2013

Wow you really have lost a lot. I am sorry for the loss of your mother and sister. At least the girl didn't string you along for too long. Like the others said you can pull through this and it does get easier, and less painfull. I wish you the best and send you a big hug. I f you need to vent anymore we are here for you.

deleted_user 02/15/2013

I really have nothing more to add to what the others have said except that you need to get to a counselor to help you work through the grief and depression. I've been through a lot myself in the past year- the break up of an 18+ year marriage and th death of my father among the things that have happened. Every time I thought I was at the bottom, something else seemed to happen. I finally wised up to what everyone on here at DS, amy friends and the people I work with kept telling me. I started seeing a therapist to work through things.

A therapist won't make the pain go away, but they can help you to find ways to cope with everything. They can give you the tools to help you find ways to get through the day, even if its one hour or one minute at a time. Please do it. We're really good at giving other people a break. Now its time to give yourself one.

Good luck!

deleted_user 02/15/2013

You say you worked hard to make her happy. That's a big problem. If she's unhappy, it's not your responsibility to "make" her happy. Happiness comes from within. You are no more responsible for making her happy than you are for the sun coming up in the morning. We are all responsible for ourselves. This relationship required too much work on your part. She is not the right person for you. It hurts bad now, but it won't last forever. If you feel that depressed, please see a therapist. They're the best.

sandysan5743 02/15/2013

Trust me Guy, it's better to find this out now than to be in a loveless relationship. In the end you will thank her for her honesty. I know it's hard to believe now, but there will be the "right fit" for you out there. And when you are ready, you will find it.

jaclyn1973 02/22/2013

Guy, in the last 3 years: I've lost my mother, my dad went in to dementia, almost all of my pets, my husband, and just recently my dad died. It's been rough. I take meds for depression (I'm prone to depression ayway.) and I go to counseling. The counseling is very important. I can tell a difference when I have not been for whatever reason. I hope things get better for you.

ChiTownBear 02/22/2013

hey man, how are you doing?

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