Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Today was the first real test of my resolve to heal. My office staff had asked my ex to come in this morning to answer a few questions about payroll and a few other open issues.
I agreed that it was fine to ask her to come in but I would make it a point to be somewhere else as I did not want to see her. I felt that in order for me to heal, I need no contact for now. As much as it hurts not seeing her, it hurts less than what I went through prior to NO CONTACT.
In anycase, I am proud of myself because she was scheduled to come in a 9:00AM, as planned, I went to a jobsite so I wouldn't be there... After she was done, she called my cell and when I saw it ringing with her name popping up on my call ID.... I looked the otherway and did not answer! :)
Even though i am sure she only had a work question... for the first time, I was in control! I have never avoided her calls before and it actually felt good!
I am a long way from not missing her but I know for now, I am ok! I was proud of myself even though I felt a range of emotions. I still don't sleep very well and I miss her and Matthew alot but I felt like a weight is lifting off my heart ever so slow...
Take care and any comments or support is such a help!
Jim
I agreed that it was fine to ask her to come in but I would make it a point to be somewhere else as I did not want to see her. I felt that in order for me to heal, I need no contact for now. As much as it hurts not seeing her, it hurts less than what I went through prior to NO CONTACT.
In anycase, I am proud of myself because she was scheduled to come in a 9:00AM, as planned, I went to a jobsite so I wouldn't be there... After she was done, she called my cell and when I saw it ringing with her name popping up on my call ID.... I looked the otherway and did not answer! :)
Even though i am sure she only had a work question... for the first time, I was in control! I have never avoided her calls before and it actually felt good!
I am a long way from not missing her but I know for now, I am ok! I was proud of myself even though I felt a range of emotions. I still don't sleep very well and I miss her and Matthew alot but I felt like a weight is lifting off my heart ever so slow...
Take care and any comments or support is such a help!
Jim
You rock! Keep it up!
Big hugs!!
Jim
It sounds like you have taken a HUGE step in the right direction! Taking back control, even just a little to begin with, is incredibly important. I think you've layed the first bricks of the foundation for your recovery and healing process.
Hang in there bud!