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I feel so sick

vmarshall
vmarshall
I just found out that the guy that I have been in love with and was recently dumped by on April 19 is moving in with and dating a girl who is 19. He is 33. She is into drugs and alcohol and that is her main goal in life- to get f-d up all the time. He was into drugs in high school but claims that he quit doin it since he has kids. He NEVER did anything but drink in front of me. I saw that he moved me to the end of his friend list on his myspace page so I went into mine and deleted him. Then I went into my cell phone and deleted his number. It hurt so bad!!! Did I do the right thing? i'm so lost and confused. I'm not real good at this relationship thing and need advice and support from friends. Please help!
deleted_user
deleted_user
It may be a blessing. He sounds like he's into the here and now and casting away any thought for tomorrow.

Be ready for him when he comes back after she moves on. He will be looking for a shoulder to cry on, and comfort, and most likely blame all his problems on her, and/or his habits.

He may have just moved you down as an emergency number.

You dont need it. Life is hard enough.

I'm guessing here, but I feel for you.
deleted_user
deleted_user
You are so doing the right thing I can't tell you how right you are. This guy is nothing but bad news for you and I feel for his kids. Be thankful you found out now and not later, time to move on. Best of luck.
deleted_user
deleted_user
RuN while you can, i thought that if my ex loved me that he would be able to stop doing drugs LOVE conconers all right??? fairy tales and BS! cinderella is a liar and walt disney as a whole too. FICTION I TELL YOU! RUN!!! now my ex stopped for awhile. resented me for it and now is constantly fucked up. poping pills and smoking pot when he wakes up from the time he gets home and goes to bed. I am very anti drug. If i was not so nieve i would not have given him a chance in the first place. RUN WHILE YOU CAN. Trust me !! TRUST US! someone that needs to be an altered state has issues PERIOD
deleted_user
deleted_user
does this guy have children with you? or from a previous? if he moved in with drugs then he does drugs. your 38 now and believe me you have very little time to waste on such matters of this nature... not to mention the my space page.. (JK) just tell your self that your better than that scene and you deserve more for yourself.
vmarshall
vmarshall
Just as an FYI- we do not have kids together. We had only been seeing eachother for 6 months. He is totally fooling himself thinking that this 19 year old will be the best thing for him. She's 5 yrs older than his oldest daughter and 8 years older than his twins. What is he thinking? His Aunt thinks that he is playing games with me and that he got too close to me and got scared since he was so "hurt" by his ex-wife that he has been divorced from since november 2005. How long does it take someone to get over a divorce usually? If he was so hurt, why is he hurting others? and why isn't he using letting someone into his life as a means of getting over being hurt? I'm confused!