Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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HeadedtoBama 05/04/2014

What's wrong me? I know it's supposed to get easier by the day. It has been months now, but I find myself getting more and more pissed off by the day. This anger just keeps building. It doesn't help that we are in a roommate situation. When this first started, I was able to go over a week avoiding him. I would literally do everything I could to avoid him physically. We switched rooms and so now he just comes and goes as he pleases in and out of my room to get to the main closet. I can tell he comes up with reasons to look to see what I'm doing. He texts me while we are in the house about random household stuff. I give him one word answers. If he wanted to communicate with me he should have never chosen to divorce.

I absolutely despise him now and find myself doing things just to irritate the hell out of him. I am trying to let it go, but I can't. If only I had a freakin voodoo doll right now.

I don't think I have ever hated anyone this much. This is not healthy.

deleted_user 05/04/2014

If you had divorced, why are you still living with him? It is very difficult to move on when you have to see him everyday.

I am in the same situation. But my case is a little different. I was not married to him but we built company together and he cheated on me. I am struggling so hard right now to get over him and I have no choice but to talk to him on daily basis and have to meet him few times in a week for meetings. In my case, I can't pull back without losing the company. He starts dating another girl now and it is killing me.

Move out or tell him to move out so that you can move on with your life.

HeadedtoBama 05/04/2014

We are not divorced,yet,....separated for months. He made supposedly filed papers two weeks ago, but as of yet I have received nothing. I am moving at the end of this month. I have to stay until my son finishes school. We are then moving out of state. At least I can focus on the move. I hope then I can just forget about everything concerning him.

Cheating is unbearable. I feel for you. He doesn't deserve you.

deleted_user 05/05/2014

You can stay over at a friend's place in the mean time...

HeadedtoBama 05/05/2014

I wish it were that easy. My son rides the bus. He has to because I teach at a different school...I can't drop him off nor pick him up. All of my friends live out of his school district. I am just holding my breath. I am going to make a plan to just get out of the house when he is here. The weekends are always the worst part.

ltwist 05/05/2014

You can do it, Bama! Keep your eye on the prize. Focus your free time on getting ready for your move. I'm sure there are lots of details to tend to. When you start to feel bad, count the number of days left.

Oh, and voodoo dolls can be very therapeutic. ;-)

deleted_user 05/05/2014

Dang girl, are we living the same life? Same crazy life here to. I'm hoping to be out in hopefully a month. Iknow it sucks. Just keep holding on. Just ignore him and don't respond to much. He'll eventually stop bugging you. I've been in this same boat since Oct. Trying to move forward.

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