Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
gabriel2012
I met this woman on line about a year ago. We talked on the phone every week for a long time before we met in person. I could tell she really liked me. Our first date went really well. But I did not call her for three days after that. Mistake. She would not answer my calls after that. I tried for three days and then gave up on her. I was really sad but I told myself the message was clear. There was another woman who wanted to date me and she was beautiful so I moved on. Three weeks later I sent her a message on Valentines day and she replied. I replied but then I never contacted her again until a week ago. I dated the beautiful woman for a while but it was so empty. I missed the other woman. She was not as pretty but I could connect with her. She was special. But I did not see that until much later. I stopped seeing the pretty woman but then I got sick and that went on for three months. Now I am starting to feel healthy enough to date again and I miss that first woman. As I said, she was special. I contacted her and she responded well. We talked over the phone for a week and I asked her out on a date this past weekend. She agreed but then she got laryngitis and could not speak so we put off the date until next weekend. On Monday I posted a romantic song on fb and she clicked she liked it. So I wrote to her about it. I said dont you think this is a beautiful song? I am glad you like it. I have always known you are a very sensitive person (she is an artist). Then on Tuesday morning I sent her a Snoopy cartoon saying Happy day! and I wrote I hope you feel better. She did not reply. So I wrote to her again at night on fb which is the way we communicate. She has not replied to any of these messages and its already 11 pm Wed. I could see she was on line for a long time on fb. Maybe she is really busy. But how long does it take to answer a text message? I am really confused by what appears to be her change of mind. Before she replied instantly. Now she does not reply to my messages. I am so sad. I really like her. And things were going really well this week. And we had a date!! What happened? Was she turned off by my cartoon or my comments on the romantic song? Did I come across as too eager? What should I do? She told me she was not seeing anyone. I am very sad because I have not liked anyone in a long long time. Only her.
deleted_user
If you really want to date her then call her. Are you afraid that the answer will be no? You seem to want to perpetuate this fantasy you have going on by pursuing her then backing off, and so on. Stay off technology and call her. You will get your answer, then you can decide what to do with the rest of your life.
deleted_user
I don't understand why people just don't get to the heart of the matter. They dick around, and think that "if I play it a certain way" the result will be different.
deleted_user
That's exactly my point. If you want to know, ask. Really ask. People play too many games when dating, or trying to. Be yourself. If you're needy, so what? You need an answer. Nothing wrong with that. As far as you know, you're still going out tomorrow night. Wouldn't it be nice to know whether you need to get some cash together and get dressed up? I'd like to know.
charliegirl29
"I waited until she came on line in fb and I sent the message"......the problem with rejection is how we handle it. I have a huge issue with it because I was rejected a lot as a small kid. But when you come to the point that you are clinging to needing an answer for something and the person you want to at least care for you is not giving you what you need .....you have to create it yourself when they don't give it to you. Create your own answer in your mind and stick with this answer. It will make you stop wondering and waiting for something that most likely will not come any time soon if at all. All this woman is doing right now is toying with you. How long do you want to be her puppet?
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