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justlikemusic
justlikemusic

today I woke up missing my ex boyfriend a lot. It happens sometimes but sometimes the urge to break contact seems to be so tempting. My mom feels very sad and upset that after 2 months I still feel sad. She tells me she's not upset at me but at him for doing this to me. She says he did not deserve my love. And now tells me that he doesn't deserve my pain, sadness and tears. But I can't just forget about him, it's so hard. I still miss, think, worry about him. I know he's so much more strong with this as he ever only contacted me once after the break up. I sometimes hate that I love him so much. Especially bc he himself is emotionally unavailable...I want to heal and feel better. This is so agonizing at times. 

rosykitten
rosykitten
I've said this before to someone else and I'll say this again. Make new memories. The past is still the past and will always be a part of your life. But new memories will give you something to talk about. It's your life. Take charge and strive for greatness that makes you happy
MontgomeryDad
MontgomeryDad
Just because he doesn't show his emotions doesn't mean he's stronger, or that he's not hurting as much as you. It may appear that way, but I'd be willing to bet he misses all of the great things about you. And if he's not willing to show you his love, then your mom is right; he doesn't deserve you. Believe it or not, there are people out there who won't be afraid or unable to show you their love. You'll find someone like that when the time is right. You just need to be patient, but I promise, it will happen, and you'll be happier than you ever were before.
yoga2016
yoga2016
hey girl, I am going through the same thing. It is so shitty .. in fact I cried to my mom today and she said the same exact shit lol .. but it doesn't make any difference what she says, when you love someone that's all you think about ..and how your heart is broken. I am sending you a hug, know that you're not alone ...I am hopeful that time will heal our wounds.
justlikemusic
justlikemusic
Yoga3016 I'm sorry you too are going through this. I know we can recover and heal from this, but the process of it all is just so draining, painful and agonizing. I hope one day you and I both can look back at what we're going through and be able to learn from all this and realize how strong we are. And of course continue to grow and evolve to better versions of ourselves.
justlikemusic
justlikemusic
Thank you all for your words and for taking the time to reply. I appreciate everyone one of you.
Itstillhurts_
Itstillhurts_
justlikemusic, and yoga3016, I am going through the same thing. And hearing the same thing from friends, parents. It sucks, and no matter what the say, if you still love someone, you will love them. If your heart is still broken, it just is. Sending both of y'all hugs. We got this.