Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Quick story short, a lot of you know it already. I broke up with him last July, it was a mistake. I still love him. He has known that I have seriously wanted him back since the end of December. We never did stop seeing each other completely. We spend time together and have fun but he hasn't decided if he will take me back or not. I've been grieving our old relationship and hoping for a chance for a new one at the same time.
It's been 3.5 months that I've been waiting for him to decide. Tonight I finally told him I couldn't do this anymore. He has to make a decision, I cannot let this control my life anymore. Either we try and work it out, or I move on. I don't like this in limbo stage anymore.
So he is deciding. I am so scared of what his answer will be. At the same time I am relieved. Soon I will either be able to move on or not. No more not knowing.
I know if he decides no, that I'll survive. Life will go on and I will feel better some day. I will marry someone else and have kids with them. Life will work out. BUT it will be very hard. I feel like the pain I've felt is only a preview of what will come. The pain I've been having is bad and he's still in my life. What happens if it is totally over? I'll be so sad. I think I cry a lot now...
But I do understand that it will eventually get better and that I'll survive.
It's been 3.5 months that I've been waiting for him to decide. Tonight I finally told him I couldn't do this anymore. He has to make a decision, I cannot let this control my life anymore. Either we try and work it out, or I move on. I don't like this in limbo stage anymore.
So he is deciding. I am so scared of what his answer will be. At the same time I am relieved. Soon I will either be able to move on or not. No more not knowing.
I know if he decides no, that I'll survive. Life will go on and I will feel better some day. I will marry someone else and have kids with them. Life will work out. BUT it will be very hard. I feel like the pain I've felt is only a preview of what will come. The pain I've been having is bad and he's still in my life. What happens if it is totally over? I'll be so sad. I think I cry a lot now...
But I do understand that it will eventually get better and that I'll survive.
I am sorry for what you are going through. I feel you really need to look at everything involving this relationship, rather than you just want him back. Of course it is your life and do what will make you happy.
I don't know all the details so I am shooting in the dark so please don't be mad. just things to consider
He hasn't known since July whether he wants you back? He has been seriously considering if he takes you back for 3.5 months?
WOW, Even that is a long time and I think I would start asking myself if he wants me as bad as I want him. If it were me, I'd want someone to want me just as bad as I wanted them or this whole situation could be played out again in time.
Just think about how wonderful it would be to have someone who loved you as much as you love them----you would be a priority instead of an option.
Good luck. Stay strong. Hopefully he will decide you are meant to be together and all will be well.
Keep your eyes only on that nursing degree. It is the very best present you could ever give yourself. You will always have a career and something to fall back on if needed.
My son's girlfriend is going for her RN. She is living with her parents till she is through so she can focus only on that degree, it is so very important.
I wish you the best of luck.