Sorry Brittany8 so so sorry! I wish I had the right words to say to make everything right! There is nothing right with the situation you/we are in!!! I too am at work looking at the site. It is really hard when we are feeling so broken down! I feel your pain.

you will have good days and bad ones. Some moments you will laugh watching a funny movie and for a few moments forget the pain you feel and then something small or simple may remind you of him and you may break down. It makes you feel like a lunatic so all over the place and crazy! but remember that is actually normal! your mind is going through a cycle of things in so many directions and it will take a lot more of those moments until you may feel okay. I hate when people say it to me but I know its probably true, that only time will be what brings you to peace. I wish there was a magic pill for all that pain

I feel the same as you. Just when I think that I am pulling through a bit something sets me so far back that I don't feel like I have the strength to get out of bed and function. I am so angry that I have been turned from a confident, happy woman to this untrusting mess. I can't see how I will ever be able to trust again. I know that hearing my rant is probably not helping you, but know that you are not alone. I think that it will get better for both of us in time.

as long as you "blame" him for how you feel - you will struggle. You have a choice about your future - let him control it and drag you down, or take back some power and decide how you want to live it.

6 months isn't a long time - and you're still grieving which is understandable - but it sounds like you're also at the point where you need to move forward. He didn't break you. No one has the power to break you. Unless you let them. He was just a temporary blip on the radar of your long life....learn the lessons and move forward. and the bad days - are just that - bad days. We all have them. soon they'll be few and fart between....

Yes...I feel the same as all you guys
But not as much now...and really moving forward
It is still difficult

And confusing

But getting better

1 1/2 years post separation

Oh, honey....I understand. It seems like just when I think I really have moved past this, something makes me think about it again - sometimes I don't even know what causes it but suddenly I feel like I am right back at the beginning.

It does feel like it but my counsellor assures me (and logic tells me) that I am not REALLY back at the beginning. There are little bits of progress in every day that you make it through and recovery from any kind of injury, especially a broken heart, is not a straight line, it's a long zigzag.

As for getting through the really bad days, keep on breathing. Listen to a piece of music that is uplifting and doesn't remind you at all of him (and has nothing to do with love!). Treat yourself so gently and, if you have some good support, reach out to them. If you have a pet, hug them.

You're not alone in this pain. I wish you some relief.

After he left I was destroyed. Felt worthless and unloveable. Now, 8 weeks later, so many people are telling me what a good person I am, kind and caring. lots of support. He says he agrees with them.

He also said when left me that I was an absolute cow.