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I can't move on

naturelady08
naturelady08
I was with my ex for 2 1/2 years. When we met, I thought I had found the one. We had everything in common, same goals, etc. I let my insecurities get the best of me in our relationship and he ended it 4 months ago. I have tried to go on a couple dates, but I come home and cry. I think about him when I wake up and throughout the day. We tried to give it a go again a few weeks ago, but that was short lived and we wound up agruing again. How can 2 people who love each other not be able to make it work?
deleted_user
deleted_user
Sorry, it happens. (hugs)
fakeblonde
fakeblonde
My husband and I have been separated for 4 months now, and almost every conversation ends in him cussing me out. If you guys can't let go of the hurt and frustration, it will be impossible to have effective communication and repair your relationship.
deleted_user
deleted_user
it doesn't work until both people picture exactly what they want to create and roll up their sleeves to create it.

couples have to have dreams and goals that they can put their resources into to build.

if one person pictures one thing and the other person has no idea of what they want to create - if anything, then it isn't going to work.
deleted_user
deleted_user
You may want to think about going to counseling to work on your insecurities. Counseling isn't the answer to everything, but it's a good foundation. It's about you now. If you choose to do so, do it for you, and not the hope that you can resurrect your relationship.
lonelygal27
lonelygal27
Try counseling, you may be able to resolve the issues especially as you both love each other and want to make it work and if a small chance not at least you would have known you tried your level best.