Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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BrooklynnMB 04/27/2015

Trying to move on so I put myself out there on a couple dating been broken up a couple weeks but this past 6 months that we were together we weren't really "together." He wasn't treating me well. Before that we were together 5 years but that ended 2 years ago so I'm ready, I need, to move on.

Trying to avoid him. No Contact and I stay away from his Facebook now. But there he is, on a dating site. It kills me to see him I there, I know he has every right to be on there but it hurt to see him on there.... ugh.

BrooklynnMB 04/27/2015

Dating sites* we've been broken* sorry typing on my phone.

kaceetee 04/27/2015

Are you really ready to date if it kills you to see him on dating sites? I'm still struggling to get my ex off my mind so what I'm saying might just be a bunch of nonsense but that's what I think!

ALD13072 04/27/2015

I would recommend focusing all of you energy on you and learning to love and be happy with yourself. The amount of pain that you continue to display leads me to believe you are no where near ready to start a new relationship.

Please reach out to family and friends for support as you continue to struggle. Keep working with your therapist. I bet they would agree you have way too much work to do on yourself before jumping into another relationship.

CopingJust 04/28/2015

do NOT go on a dating site. You're in no fit shape to date so imagine how wrong it is to waste the other persons time and emotions .....if you need a distraction go find a hobby - but do not inflict yourself on the unsuspecting dating public until you are fit to do so. It's incredibly unfair of you.

Yes I'm harsh - but there are way too many people who've been on the receiving end of that type of thing - who don't deserve it. Me included.

murphytoronto 04/28/2015

I think if you do, you need to be completely honest up front and communicate alot
Do not have sex....unless that is all you want

Be slow and cautious and promise nothing

If the man understands and still wants to be with you....he will have to be so patient and a part of your process.....with uncertain ends

ChiTownBear 04/28/2015

Agree with #4

redheaddiva 04/28/2015

I also agree you are in no way ready for a relationship right now. You need to focus on yourself right now...not try to find another man to distract you. That's not fair at all to them. I was someone's rebound before and it was painful. We cannot hurt others in an attempt to make ourselves feel better.

sja 04/29/2015

Girlfriend, have you been reading my posts about what it's like for the person you use for a bandaid? Don't do that to them. Don't do that to yourself. You are about as ready to date as I am to fly a spaceship. It is extremely unfair too the other person.

Go take an art class, dance class, pottery class. Take ax walk, write in a journal. Scream into a pillow. Go out with a friend.

For the love of God, don't date right now...

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