Tabatha it does get better the more you
Work on yourself and heal. That takes time
And no easy quest at least not for me. I am
60 this year and i still have hopes for many
good things to come my way.

The healthier you are the healthier you Attract
Especially when you feel good about yourself
and your Singleness. HUGS

Miranda's... thank you the reassurance from others really helps me

I feel your pain. It's hard for me to wake up and get through each day. The best thing we can do is to literally take it day by day. Each day that we make it through to thank God for that and deal with daily battles as they come.

It will get better. No matter how hard it is, keep going to therapy, join a divorce group, get out and look after yourself. Don't feel selfish for doing so. I find exercise really helps with the stress. Find someone you trust to talk to, family, friends.
You are important now...not what happen in the past. We were all born with a blank book. As life goes on, we fill in those chapters. Your past is just those chapters. It's time to move on to the next chapter. You will heal...in time the pain will lessen. There will be more good days then bad. Before you know it, you'll be on to your next couple of chapters. Life is what we make of it. Don't worry or dwell on the past, do not worry about your future, you can't predict or control the future. Live for today, and tomorrow may be better. Stay strong and keep working hard. -HUGS-

Tabatha, I am in exactly the same space but I have been in a relationship in my past that was torture so I can say being alone is better than being with the wrong person. My relationship recently ended & I can't stop crying. I feel like everything that I cherished is gone. Instead of focusing on feeling better or timelines just chose each step one after the other & be open to breathing in little moments of things that feel good- not even happy or joyful- just good- like the warmth of the sun on your face, a hot shower, birds singing. None of us know where our lives will be a year from now..5 years from now so don't second guess the future. Look for moments of OK in the present & embrace being able to make your own choices. Hugs! Hydrate, take good care of yourself, keep busy but don't exhaust & take melatonin helps me sleep better

I am sorry you are in such pain. I find I also struggle with getting through the day at times as well. I hope you can find something that brings you some joy to serve as a distraction during this heartbreaking time in your life. Perhaps find a good book. ( everyone keeps telling me that eat, pray, love is very helpful. There is also the movie) I'm not sure where you live and if the weather allows it but try and get outside to just clear your mind. I know when there were times I was particularly down, comments from this site, including yours have helped bring some comfort. I hope you feel some relief soon. Hugs.

At least you had the courage to be alone to go out on your own, make your own way and face the unknown. And it's never too late to start something new. I met a lady who just finished college at 55.! There is no time like the present

My dear let me tell you as others will yes there will be some time of pain and you just want to sleep or stay in bed that is called process and it is normal , if we did not feel the pain then we would not be able to live and learn . I have been married for 24 years to my high school sweetheart, We married at age 20 started our family about 7 years later and have 2 sons age 17 and age 20 of which both live at home with me . The oldest is going to college and I want him to focus on that besides he helps out as company with the 17 year old while I work full time. I have been through just about it all and as many times as stbx left he always returned and this went on for 6 years, talk about regret oh boy if I could kick myself I would. The first few months were not easy and I am not talking about taking care of everything by myself , hey I did that when stbx was living at home , I am talking about how can my stbx keep making the same mistakes that hurt me and our sons and replace me like a pair of shoes. His affairs which he said was all for attention I still took him back for the sake of being a family and holding hope that he would change . I am 47 years old starting over , I spent half of my life with stbx and he makes the mistakes and I clean up the mess. Time does heal and time does get better if you allow it to get better . Focus on what you do have and what you want. A friend of mine is 50 something and her divorce was final last year she now has a career with very little education and she is starting to meet people that she is fine with just being friends. She had no idea there are nice men out there and she wishes that she did it sooner . It does get better but that better starts with you . Your have bad days for sure but it is the good days that gets you through those bad ones. Age has nothing to do with a new start a new you a new life . I wish you luck not as if you will need it because I know you will get through it. Lots of hugs to ya

The intense pain you feel in the beginning is not the same level of pain you feel later on. Things will slowly ease up, so you won't feel entirely helpless, say a few months down the road. You just have to keep hanging on, it will get better. I've seen people state a wide range of years in which they say it takes a person to get over a divorce. Take those estimates with a grain of salt. How long it takes you will depend on so many factors, it's really unpredictable. Lots of great advice and ideas above.

I remember that feeling! But, I am happy to say I no longer have it, I just remember having it.
It is OK, even necessary, to take it one day at a time for awhile. Heck, for a while, I even took it a few hours at a time, or a task at a time (i.e. just get through a walk around the block, just watch a totally mindless movie that has no connection to him, just go have a mani/pedi, whatever works for you). It felt like forever at the time, but looking back it did not take long before I didn't have to do that any more. Post here as often you like, in the forums and your journal. There's also lots of helpful ideas in above posts so I wont repeat them. But you definitely can do it, even when you feel you can't. (((HUGS)))

Thank you all for helping me through... it means a lot

Oh lord when my wife left after 24 years I was completely devastated ...couldn't get out of bed, agonize over the phone waiting for a text, block her, unblock her....I remember it well...but it slowly gets better and now after 3 years yeah I still think of her now and then but I would never get back with her, this whole process made me who I now am today, much stronger, more independent, more careful, and now financially more stable as I started a new career at 51! And I'm talking to a gal I knew from years ago that also was cheated on and dumped..and really enjoy talking and joking etc ..who knows if it'll lead anywhere I'm in no hurry, if it does great if not that's ok too I'm much more comfortable on my own now where the early days I was crawling the walls! You just have to detach and get over the "addiction" of that person, and you will! No contact has been my savior..!

I can understand what ure going thru but sometimes its better that way than being with the decievers.

I am younger than you and after 7 months I still wake up crying...one thing my counsellor keeps on telling me: if we are afraid of being together with ourselves, why would someone else choose to do it???