I don't know why this is happening to any of us. I guess shit just happens. Hang in there. We're all there with you.

I have nothing profound to say. I can say I know how you feel and it's the worst pain in the world.

no one has answers to why bad things happen .its difficult to accept facts.the more you are alone and with out any work your mind will remind you of tormenting incidents that happened in the past.you better go out, be with friends.engage yourself in some work.this might help you deviate your mind from analyzing about past incidents.keep your self busy in some activity.when we dont have control over situation. its better to move on.as time passes by you will feel less stressful."this phase too shall pass." you will be healed by lord.take care.

why dont you live with your parents or friend for some time. living alone is not good at the moment.

*bear hug* just let it out. If you need to cry then you cry, maybe watch some new movies to help your mind relax or go for a walk and get the stale air out of your lungs. Make yourself your favorite food or just get take out, whatever you wanna do. Spend the day taking care of your heart while its wallowing. Trust me I know you want the pain to just be done and over with but don't just push it away. Spending a few days facing it, crying over it and coming to terms with it will benefit you in the long run. It ain't easy but you can do it, I know you can.

I am in the same boat after 18 years with my wife. She told me she doesn't love me anymore and that she was "done". On September 15 via email. It has been rough for me. I am medicated and seeing a therapist while on here all the time. You will make it but you need to take care of yourself. We are all here for each other.

i wonder why are we people dumped.where is justice in this world.is being good our fault.

It's ok to cry. I thought I was done crying last week, but have cried a ton the past two days. It's losing that comfort you had for so long that is both scary, and just downright depressing. We just have to keep taking it day by day. It will get better. And there is no good reason behind why they do this to us. It's selfishness, and really, they're probably doing us a favor. We can all do better. There are people out there who will love and adore you just for being you. Keep your head up, and you'll find that.

Montgomery Dad I love your hope. The weekend, the cold, the holidays all make us lonely. Getting out the house will make you feel better.

If I can say this, is that we all have so much love stored in our broken hears. I am sending you all of mine, so that you know you're not alone in this. Miles may separate us, but I am there with you. Try not to stay alone in the physical sense. Go out, see family, friends. If you need, message me. We can talk on the phone if you like. It will help to know that a living human being is listening.

Thanks basnime. I have to admit, I do that because I need to hear it myself. But I do want everyone here to feel better, because I feel they deserve it.

I am so sorry to hear about your struggle and I hope that with time things get easier. I have been divorced since May and we were married for 8 years...everyday it gets a little bit better. I have found that nothing has helped me more through my divorce than finding online communities, reading books, and talking to others who have gone through a similar situation. It is nice to know that I'm not alone and there is help and support out there. I have to recommend a book I recently finished called, "The Accidental Divorcee" by Laura Scott (http://theaccidentaldivorcee.com/). It is a highly personal and helpful read that covers every aspect of what you're feeling, what to expect legally, emotionally, mentally, etc. She also shares relatable stories from other divorcees and how they healed. It is also a quick read so it doesn't feel like you're reading a never ending text book! Good luck to all who are going through this.

Thank you all so very very very much. I have to admit that yesterday I literally just spent all day sobbing on the couch until it was an appropriate time to take my klonopin so I could just go to bed. This morning I am literally just taking it one task at a time. Waking up to these comments today made some of the loneliness go away for a little while. I joined a local divorce meet up (where they swear they are not there for hookups or dating) and I meet with them on Saturday. Hopefully that will help too. You are all wonderful and I hope that we all find the happiness we so richly deserve some day soon.

Deborah i will look up that book thank you