Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I am really sad, not particularly over my last girlfriend, and the breakup is still very fresh. I am pretty sure even if she and I got back together, which would ease the loneliness in my heart temporarily, but it wouldn't have worked out anyway. Not because we wanted different kinds of relationship, but at the end of the day, I am simply incapable of maintaining a long-term relationship. No matter how great it starts out, I always end up feeling trapped, and struggle to stay in it to make it work. After the initial highs and lows, I eventually only focus on what I want to do, and the other person always always gets in the way. And I view that as a problem, and in my trying to resolve the problem, I act all righteous and blame the girl for not giving me enough space. Yet I continue to stay in the relationship while "helping" her to fix her. Spending time with her and doing what she wants become "favors". What is wrong with me???
I want out, but I also don't want to lose the girl. Inevitably, the girl gets fed up, and leaves me. I get all heart-broken, and start to remember all the good things, and want her back. Why do I do this over and over time and again??? Is there hope for me? I want to be fully committed to the woman I love, and at times I do genuinely feel that way, but why do I get so wrapped up in my own shit, and end up losing sight of what's really important? I realize that I don't want to be this way, but this behavior is like engrained in my DNA. I wonder if I can really break out of it.
So sad, for hurting another great girl... I feel so ugly on the inside.
Flame on, please... I need to hear it!
I want out, but I also don't want to lose the girl. Inevitably, the girl gets fed up, and leaves me. I get all heart-broken, and start to remember all the good things, and want her back. Why do I do this over and over time and again??? Is there hope for me? I want to be fully committed to the woman I love, and at times I do genuinely feel that way, but why do I get so wrapped up in my own shit, and end up losing sight of what's really important? I realize that I don't want to be this way, but this behavior is like engrained in my DNA. I wonder if I can really break out of it.
So sad, for hurting another great girl... I feel so ugly on the inside.
Flame on, please... I need to hear it!
So I am entering my middle life, a time where I don't have a clear view of what the future might bring. Hence some people call it a crisis, I guess. I know I am not a solitary person, and would like to have a mate for life. Last girlfriend was everything I could have wanted... except her idea of a relationship consists of spending "95% of our time together", and "we are only supposed to have mutual friends". So when she didn't mesh with my inner circle, there was a lot of pressure on me, to make peace, to make everyone happy. I asked her to avoid some of the social events, which caused great dissatisfaction on her part.
I found myself in the position of seeking new employment, and landed a great opportunity in Texas. I didn't feel it was much of a choice - between unemployment and building new skill sets and advance my career. That of course was construed as choosing my job over girlfriend. I was really hoping that being away from everything would allow us to build our relationship without other "distractions", albeit the long distance. But things didn't get better, because she was having a breakdown... I asked my best friend to console her, they have always gotten along. Maybe a little too much... I was surprised and shocked to find out they were dating when I went home for Thanksgiving. It had been 5 weeks since I talked to her before my trip, I thought giving it a little time and separation would be good for us. I did talk to her, and she said she had completely moved on. So that's that.. I guess.
Sad....