I dated a guy for 4 years. We had (what I thought was)a great relationship. We could laugh together, have great conversations etc. It took him 4 years to tell me I wasn't the one. The part that killed me is that we were on again off again over the fours years and I wanted the relationship so much and I should have walked after the first time we were "off". We have been broke up for about a year and a half now. I still see him around town once in a while and he always says things like, "I think about you all the time"... sometimes he tries to get me to go home with him. He has a woman that he is attempting to date... just one problem... she is still living with her boyfriend of 7 years so I guess he sees her behind the poor guys back..and to top that off he wanted me to go home with him and of course I refused. I have been dating a really nice guy... and I can't understand why the ex is still so attractive to me and the new nice guy isn't as attractive (but a far better catch)..... I really don't know what I am asking.. maybe just venting... I want to be emotionally divested of this guy and I find it so hard.