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I am finally ready and he will be blindsided

gottabreath
gottabreath
I never thought I would finally find the strength to leave but I have. After years of feeling no self worth and put down, something just finally snapped in my head probably when he said to me that I am just "disposable everyone is" I can't even remember the reason I ever fell in love with him. I truly feel sorry for him, I know he is going to be completely blind sided because he thinks that I would be the one begging him to stay. Every other week he tells me he needs a plane ticket out of here that I just make his life miserable. It wasn't until recently that I have said "go ahead". I can't believe that 7 years of my life has been just a whirlwind I keep trying to think of the good times but they are masked by the bad. Fortunately I have friends that are behind me and support me in my decision, what hurts the most is that I love his family dearly..they don't know how long I lasted this long. If it wasn't for my friends the past few months and my faith I would have never been able to finally break away. I am scared to death but I have to do it...
deleted_user
deleted_user
Wow - big change for you, finally finding the strength to leave - I know you are scared, but it seems to me that you can more than likely get this done longterm, best to you!
OLDBIKER
OLDBIKER
After a certain time of being told " I don't love you", one gets that feeling of ""I can do it". By the way, it doesn't have to be the words "I don't love you". Actions speak louder than words. It took me 8-1/2 years to finally get the message but, once I did, I finally left. Is it scary, yes indeed. Does it still hurt?. Yes, of course it does. Family ties, like you said always cause hurt but, you can make it through. Take it a step at a time, a day at a time. Others have been where you are and many are here to help you. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I wish you strength and determination to do what is best for you.
deleted_user
deleted_user
You are strong woman. Good luck to you. I already posted it in other place but I repeat myself:
My father told when I was breaking down: " Smart women drop their husband and go on with their life, stupid women (me) end up in mental hospital."
deleted_user
deleted_user
Been there was in a 9 yr. relationship and I use to tell her one day she was going to wake up and I would be gone. She would tell me to shut up because I wasn't going anywhere, finally I had enough and just left which still baffle her today. She really didn't believe I would leave.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I really got inspired by your post. I'm in the edge of leaving but I'm struggling so much, I need to find strength to start my life all over again. It's so difficult. Blessings to you
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