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I didn't know who to ask and hoping someone will have some ideas or suggestions for me. I fell yesterday on icy steps and hurt my back again. I fell on the same steps a year ago December. I have herniated and buldgint discs. I am still in pain from last fall and taking Darvocet daily. The fall yesterday hit the same area..lower back, middle and this time the upper. There is a instense burning in the upper back and I don't know what that is. My neck also hurts but hoping that will ease with the ice and heat treatment.
I am debating going to doctor, only problem is that the fall took place at ex house. The first thing he said to me is I suppose you are going to sue me. I hadn't planned on it. I was there doing him a favor as usual and this is the thanks I get. He said thanks for ruining my day. What about mine? He told me to go live with my mother in her basement apartment and we could hold each other up. What is that all about? How can he be so cruel? Sorry I really just wandered if I should go to doctor and have upper spine checked out or is it just the bruising that is causing the burning fealing. Any ideas or suggestions would be helpful. I am using the heat, ice treatment. I guess I could put a claim against his home insurance. I am sure that will make him very happy (not).
I am debating going to doctor, only problem is that the fall took place at ex house. The first thing he said to me is I suppose you are going to sue me. I hadn't planned on it. I was there doing him a favor as usual and this is the thanks I get. He said thanks for ruining my day. What about mine? He told me to go live with my mother in her basement apartment and we could hold each other up. What is that all about? How can he be so cruel? Sorry I really just wandered if I should go to doctor and have upper spine checked out or is it just the bruising that is causing the burning fealing. Any ideas or suggestions would be helpful. I am using the heat, ice treatment. I guess I could put a claim against his home insurance. I am sure that will make him very happy (not).
chiropractor ??? that's all I got
Your ex - he's the same as alway ... ungrateful, rude, uncaring, & assumes the worst out of life.
I say if you can't afford the doctor appointment, then definitely turn it in to his homeowners. Honestly, that's not an unreasonable thing to do. After all, it was at his residence while you were HELPING him.
Good Luck & I hope the pain subsides quickly.
I still do not know why you are doing favors for him at all.
As far as you having no one, well, that statement there tells me that you are not happy with yourself, because if you were, you wouldn't mind being alone. Hell, you haven't even been divorced that long. My parents have been divorced 13 years, and neither have remarried, yet both lead fulfilling lives.
You live the life you choose to live. So, stop making stupid choices, and stop doing favors for him. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result.
Are you really expecting different reactions now?
I think your ex emotionally abused you to the point that you do not know anything different, and you should seek professional mental help.
It's fine to do him a favor, but it's hopeless to hope to ever please him. If you think it's the Christian thing to do...then fine. I'm assuming that you've prayed about it and the message you've gotten is that it's pleasing God. If you don't think that it is doing that....then helping him probably isn't the Christian thing to do.
You MUST be pleasing the people at work enough for them to keep paying you!
And no, I wouldn't expect him to call to check on you. I wouldn't expect him to show up at your funeral. I wouldn't expect him to help you in any way. From what you said about his epileptic attacks, he probably has brain damage. And he wasn't nice to begin with.
So, as I see it, the facts are this: You have a pre-existing back injury that you are being treated for. You fell and may have done more damage and/or exacerbated the condition. You are in pain and concerned for your health.
What would you tell a friend that told you the above information? Would you tell her to seek medical advice/treatment ASAP? I am going to assume the answer is yes... then that's EXACTLY what you should do! Right now, the circumstances around the fall and the homeowners insurance and the ex and all that other stuff that you're allowing to cloud your thinking don't mean ANYTHING compared to your health.
Please - TAKE CARE OF YOU... FIRST!