im so sorry for the pain you are feeling.you are not a stranger here just an unmet friend.we have all been what you are going thru.you are not worth nothing,you are your childrens mother and that is special.its okay to grieve you have suffered a loss.pls remember you have worth and value.cry if you need to but you are not alone

Shadow, I am so sorry for your pain.

You say you are a stranger here, but I have to say when we all here are experiencing the same type of pain, we are more than just strangers to one another...we all have a common bond and it allows us to feel close to others who are going through the same type of pain.

I don't know when the pain will end. I am much better than I was 2 months ago, but not near where I need to be. I wish I knew when all the pain would subside.

I so hope you and your children can start feeling some relief from the pain very soon.

I do care. I am sure many others will echo my sentiments.

All my best

~R~

I read your journal. You express yourself beautifully. I see a reat deal of strength there - and I do not see a stranger - I see another human being doing what human beings do - and one of the things we do is heal and grow stronger - You will too. Yu are not alone on your journey.

You are here because we know the pain that you are feeling. We take care of each other here. I was where you are. My wife left me and was with another man. He is in jail now so she is not with him at the moment. She is not part of her children's lives now and I am rebuilding my life. I am better off without her. I don't hurt like I did and believe me when I say that I undertand the pain that you are feeling. I thought I was never going to feel better. Hang in there for one day at a time and believe me that it will get better. It has gotten better for many of us and will for you.

Hey, in the beginning seems forever, but time heals, time is your friend. It is not true that you are nothing without him, we all adjust from being half to be whole again. I am in much better shape nowdays than 1 yr ago, when I separated. And I was worse before with the emotional abuse. I am way better off without him, but took time. Support groups and books help. A book that I liked: "the journey from abandonment to healing" susan anderson. Be patient with yourself, and take pride in all baby steps. I am sure you can do it.
Hug
S

It's such a hard hard thing to go through. And why should we care??? Because we ARE you. We are ALL you. We are all in the same place. Have been in the same place. Are headed towards the same place. Can we make it go away? no. But we can at least mourn together. Mourning alone is hell. Be strong when you need to. Cry when you need to. Come here often. Strange as it sounds, it does help.

Shadow,

Please don't feel like a stranger, I've only been on this forum a few days and I've been welcomed with open arms.

You are a strong wonderful woman, who is there for her kids. You allow yourself to take your pain and hide it for the sake of your kids. Hun, if that isn't a person who is strong and incredible I don't know what is. The most unselfish act is to take the pain of others for our own.

Know that you are doing your kids justice by moving on. They will see the strength of a woman and learn that a marriage isn't like this, it's not supposed to be an abusive relationship.

Tears are a way of releasing the emotion we feel. You are allowed to cry. And because we aren't there next to you to hug you and wipe your tears, just think we'd all be taking turns doing so.

*hugs*

pssst....those cheeks look pretty good to me. I don't see ANY stains.

hugging you tight and tears flowing as i do... we are all here because we hurt and we want to learn to not hurt and be whole again... sandie said it best ... you are no stranger.. just an unmet friend... the people on here are all at different stages.. some of us are still just starting out learning to be alone .. others are further along and have so much to offer .. crying is not a bad thing and no reason to be ashamed... hugggggggggggs

And what a beautiful smile!

No one is a stranger here..I read your journal entries and I am saying prayers for you..there are times that the pain and fear leave us immobile, incapable of standing on our own. You will find people you can lean on here, to share your pain with, and soon you will be standing on your own...you are not alone.

Are not strangers, friends you have yet to meet?, we gather in our pain to support each other, we are here to help.

For me Part of healing was all that sad stuff. The crying the Anxiety, Grief and morning. I can tell you that for me it was almost unbearable at times. I can't tell you how many days I just didn't know how I would get through it. I know its tough for you. If you have read here , there are steps to getting past it all. But in order to be the better person that you will be, you must go through it. You were not givn a choice as many others here were not. So all we can do at first is one day at a time. Setting small goals to achieve and succeeding. Cry it does help with the healing, and know that you are strong. I can tell you this, that with time you will have times that you will fill joy in between the pain. As time goes these periods of joy will get longer and longer. What I have found after all this time, there is a great person in this skin of mine. One that has the capacity to love someone that surely did not deserve it. Be kind to yourself and do your utmost not to beat yourself up, and remember that its ok not to be perfect. You can and will do better. The future is very bright, but first you must endure this to appreciate what is coming.
God Bless you and Keep you.

im so sorry for the pain and lostness yu feel YOU have nothing to feel ashamed about nothing.we all know how you are feeling and wish there was a magic wand that would take it all away but the next best thing is .d.s there so many lovely kind people here and you will get help and support .love to you and your children xx

You're right,there are so many wonderful people her. I do want to learn to love the person in my skin. One of my biggest issues is that I think I am lucky to have him. I spent so many years alone before I meet my husband. And sad to say, I do not have faith in my self sometimes to make the right descion. I have been obeying my husband for so long.........it is clear to doctors,sherriff,family,and friends that I have allowed this man to have so much control over almost every single asspect of my life.No it's time to change that.